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#1576326 01/29/06 12:08 PM
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Confused:

I have watched you give excellent, well thought out advice to many people here. I am somehow not sure of what your story is. It is not clear from your byline where you are "at" in this mess. No Plan B, so does that mean recovery? Curious minds want to know.

Lem


Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.

I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
lemonman #1576327 01/29/06 12:28 PM
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Thanks Lem....well I give some decent advice...I should follow it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I'm in friggin' limbo land. A is over. As far as I can tell there is NC. WH is home. He won't commit to M, he won't leave, I wouldn't say recovery because there is still this big elephant in the room that WH refuses to acknowledge.

I talked to SH about a week ago. He asked me to give it another month...he told me I need to be a broken record w/WH that I need his help to deal w/ this. I don't think its going to work. I believe WH would like nothing better than to ignore A ever happened and just not think about it and continue on with life. I can't/won't do that anymore.

I'm thinking filing for D is my next step...its the only way I can get him out of the house to actually go into plan B.

I'll bump up my thread for more details.


aka-confused42
BS-45 me
WH-42
DS-14 & DD-12
together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
ChaCha #1576328 01/29/06 12:32 PM
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Sorry that you are still in this limbo. I am sure it is very painful.

I for some reason just couldn't remember your story.

Thanks for bumping, I'll go read there.

Ofcourse I don't have any sage advice for you, but I just wanted to know your story as you seem to be able to tell other people the "right" things to do, so I wanted to know.

Goodluck,

See ya

LM


Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.

I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.

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