Well I have to first apologize for not posting in a long time..
I have not heard from XWH since the day I saw him in court in Jan. and he talked to me right before he went to jail for 10 days...

A few nights ago, I got thinking about my EX and how we got to where we are...like reliving the past.

I am happy in my relationship, my life and most of all my children.

Well tonight I got the stupid idea to check OWs yahoo profile.
profiles.yahoo.com/sweetshysouthernangel

Well there I see XWH and her.. Pretending to be happy.
Then in her latest news section it says "Satisfaction...knowing that a skank owns something that I drove and had sex on!Whoo Hoo I love the gravel pit!!! " She is referring to my 4-wheeler...
I am pissed, hurt, crying.

I hate my XWH...He has not seen his kids since JUNE! I am glad her profile is so sick...if you check it you will see why. She has four kids. I see nothing about them, because the state has them.

Yet...under all that. I keep re-living the past. Missing what could have been.
Jake is sitting here, watching TV with me, and I keep thinking about how much I hate OW..

What is wrong with me?>

Danielle

Good to see you posting again. Several people have tried to call you out.

I suggest that you don't look at the OW's profile anymore. Why be upset about someone who is obviously a pig?

Danigirl,
That is just sick. Can we all say...barf <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
I am so sorry for you and your family. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
(((((((((Danigirl))))))))))))))))

Look at her quote: “WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND”. Let’s just hope that happens.

BTW. Which one is her on the pic? The one with the beard or the one with the dark root?

Hi Dani,
Just believe in karma what goes around, comes around.

What is wrong with me?>

nothing you are human. Is Jake the new man in your life? Have you forgiven yourself? Do you understand it is not your failure that the marriage failed? Are you letting these dark thoughts sabotage your new relationship?

You do deserve to be happy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Oh Dani,

I'm sorry sweetheart. Don't cry! Be strong.

I have got an idea. Put a for sale sign on it. With the forsale sign put up an additional sign. Ridden by one whor* so and so. All offers considered. Skank will wash off!
Don't let this little slu* get to you. You are much too fine a woman to let that bimbo hurt you.
She chose her path, let her follow it. A slip and slide to he!!

Danielle:

Hating another person (as you do your EX-OW) takes a hel$ of alot of energy. It must be literally exhausting. There is only so much enegy that one person has. Your robbing yourself here. Looking at Yahoo profiles and thinking "of what may have been" is counter productive to healthy, balanced and enriched living. You still don't completely "get it"....but your getting there.

The fact that you KNOW this is wrong and personally destructive to you and that you are reaching out for support here is a GOOD thing.

You have spent too much time "learning" to live in this unhealthy dysfunction with your EX-WH and OW. Now that you are out of it, you are consciously or "subconcsiously" looking for the past destructive ways to "feel comfortable". You are uncomortable in a committed healthy relationship...so you are going back to what you "think" it is you missed.

Just my opinion......could be wrong.

Lem

believer,
Thanks for the fast reply. I had done so well staying away from their drama. Honestly, she works at a cow farm milking cows, he just got out of jail, and they are still homeless. Why go down to their level? I was doing well avoiding it. Then randomly I starting thinking of him a few days ago. I need to stop...I do.

I will give an update and post more tomorrow, (promise) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Danielle

Dani,
I just looked at her profile....LOL!!! What an idiot!!!What a sleaze!! Don't waste your time and energy hating her she is so not worth it.

OMG! I didn't realize she believed in karma...I guess it won't surprise her when it comes back around!

So tell us more about Jake!!

Dani don't you see? I started to laugh and I am sorry for that, like the rest of us your pain is real. Homelees, jail, milking cows. bwaaaaaaah. Sorry if I offended any cow milkers! Really!
The only world being rocked is the underworld!
Pull back Dani, your new relationship does not need this awful baggage.
Continue to be strong and these things will be seen for what they are. A homeless cow milker who needs to try and bring down others because her life sucks so bad.
Damn I yearn for the days of tar and feathers!

OW's profile is all screwed up. It says she is in a LT R. Stupid OW, she can't even tell time. BTW, she likes the gravel pit? It s/b the 'grovel pit'. There's more stupid stuff... honestly didn't think people could be soo dumb but there she is, the entire pig. Stinky and all. LOL!!!

Dani, don't worry about what she writes. She is sooo screwed up anyone w/a sane mind can see she's got a few screws loose. LOL!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

U R waaay better than she is.

Waaay better.

BTW, she's not what I would call attractive. He must need to have his eyes and ears checked. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />


Hugz,
L.

Hey there sweetie,

I think of you often...

Why can't the father of your children be M to you still? Why can't he see what he is doing is a mistake? Why can't life be different? Grrr, so much of our life seems out of our control, especially when another person has devoted their life to stealing what we had...

Yes, you are right to be angry and appalled at their lax morals and energy to harm you...but what good does this anger do you?? It was useful at a time when it got you to get the law involved and make sure they paid the consequences for their threats and harm against you and the kids. And it is useful to keep you from wanting to contact them...

Use this anger as you need it, but what you don't need...let that go. It is INCREDIBLY hurtful to be cast aside, to be dumped...to feel unlovable...but if there is anything I have learned from my experience and reading on the forum, it is that WS often feel unworthy of BS love, so they find a morally corrupt person to share in their low self-esteem...

Keep what you need, let someone else have the rest...

Just imagine if she had written that sleazy description - poison pill for you to find, and you hadn't bothered to look?

If the "gift" is not received, to whom does it belong?

Let her stew in her own poison from now on, Dani - she isn't worth your time and anyone who reads it will go - eeeewwww! what a sl*t!

From now on, let her make her poison pills, but you don't take the bait. She knew you'd look - that's why she wrote it.

So don't look anymore!!

PS - sounds like she's really pissed about you getting the atv, so she wants you to hate it enough to get rid of it, perhaps give it to your x?...

So trade the contaminated one for another - but keep on riding.

Wow Dani, she looks like 10 miles of bad road....yick.

Yeah she's got some zingers on there, and they were specifically aimed for you.

They're both delusional, and their relationship will unravel, and it will be hilarious.

You be strong sweetie!

God Bless,

-Caren

P.S. Awwww her e-mail is private....I was gonna drop that skank wad a line <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

{{{Dani}}} So sorry you had to see that but KaylaAndy is right. That skank put that stuff up so you would see it. Anyone else looking at it can see right away what a slease she really is.

If that site is bookmarked, delete the bookmark. Wipe the url from your (and your computer's) memory. That site, and that skank, are not worth the bandwidth that page is taking up on the world wide web.

I wonder if the good hfolks at yahoo would be interested in hearing that one of their members is putting up a web site for no other reason than to torment someone? Nah, they probably don't give a hoot. It is a freedom of speech thing I guess.

Dani, she and your X are not worth your energy. Let the hate go. Hug your kids, play a game with them. Go out for a walk in the beautiful Maine countryside. It's a winter wonderland out there this morning after last night's snow. Get out there with your kids, build a snowman, take it all in, and enjoy it.

I agree with others. We know it hurts, but it is REALLY funny at the same time. A gravel pit! Where else would a ditch pig belong! ROFL!

Dani - This is not someone worth hating, if anything you should pity her. Look at the type of person she is, she is not someone who can be proud of themselves when they look in the mirror. When I read that profile, I almost had to laugh at how pathetic she is. What a piece of trash! You are so far from that. Release the hate, it will eat you alive and you can not allow them that satisfaction. Remember the opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference.

(((((Dani!!!!)))))

Ive been wondering about you, glad you checked in. Yeah I went and looked at her silly-azz profile and ANYONE (but those 2) who reads it would find it laughable in the extreme. " Hi! I milk cows and am homeless, but am waiting on all my fairy tale wishes to come true" Bats eyelashes. Dr. Harley should use that as an example of how affairees delude themselves. And I agree with whoever posted that she sounds pissed that you got the atv. Guess she'll be milking cows for a little while longer. Hope no one mistakes her for one, MMMOOOOOO!!!! LOL, Hang in there Dani, your doing great.

My question for ya...

If she has stolen her man, why does she still need a Yahoo profile?