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Does anyone have any good ideas on what I ought to do for my fence-sitting, not making any effort to recover but not stiil in the A WH, on Valentine's Day?
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Good Question. What do you think?
I'm thinking of sending my WH a collage with all of the stupid notes he has given me. JK. I'm not giving him a darn thing(I'm in Plan B).
Perhaps a simple card would do nicely.....Are you still in full force Plan A? Does he like a special dinner?
Sorry, not much help on this one.
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Thanks, Kim. I was hoping to think of something creative. I can't give him a hearts and flowers card, because he'll freak out (after all, he told me he wanted a D just a few months ago). He seems to respond well to receiving things, though. I baked him a cake on his B-Day (!!) and things seemed to turn around at that point. (Must be an EN of his?) Then he gave me a CAR for Christmas. So, I need to come up with something that meets his EN, but doesn't freak him out. Challenging, huh?
Sorry to hear that you have enough of those notes to make a collage!
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Hmmmm. Likes your baking - How about a HUGE yummy heart shaped cookie??? Does he like chocolate chips??
Wow. A CAR for Christmas!!! That's hard to top. But then, you shouldn't have to!!
Is he romantic? I don't really know your story, so might not be the best for ideas. How about a trail of Hershey's Kisses leading from the front door to the bedroom.....where he finds you waiting....
Kim
O.k., that might freak him out, huh?
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Heavens, I don't know.....my x and I got married on Valentine's day. I don't care for that whole mess anymore. Wonder why? He barely remembered our last one together. And, after that, I don't think I did anything for him. And I KNOW he didn't do anything for me. He wouldn't be my x if he hadn't been so full of stinkin' thinkin'.
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I got a simple card for him. Think of him a a friend. The card I will be giving him will have no hearts no love words just a friendly hugs card. The cookie idea is good to. But leave the hearts out. I am thinking brownies myself. I still do plan A.
Me-30
WH-29
M-6.5yr
D-day #1 12/17/05
D-Day #2 1/16/06
DD's-5 and 9
Exposed 1/16/06
Moved to US 6/1/06 2000 milesaway from OW.
I won't give up without a fight.
The future????
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Cinderella, I understand what you mean. My FWH & I got married on Valentine's Day. It's going to be hard. I said I don't want to celebrate at this point, but at the same time, I need it to be special or I'm going to lose it. I will probably lose it anyway - trigger, you know.
The bad part is my FWH works at 4am so during the week, he needs to go to bed around 7p. And on that day, Valentine's Day, lands on his long day, Tuesday, which means he probably won't get home until 6p & needs to eat & go to bed. It's going to be DEPRESSING & SAD for me even if we try to celebrate before or after the actual day.
BS (me) 40 FWH 39
Married: 2/14/99
Together: 16 years
DD 6, DS 4, DD 3, DD 2, DS 2
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I'm in PLan A. She want's no contact from me except concerning our son. I bought her a card in the "mother" section that one would give to a friend who is a mother. No hearts or ILYs, just shows appreciation for being a mom. I'll sign it for myself and our son.
Love never fails.
Me 34 Divorced
GF 29 Never married
DS 1 What a treasure!
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(sigh). Guess a card will have to do . . . no hearts and flowers, just the sentiment. The Hershey's will have to wait for another day . . . <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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Last year on Valentine's Day my WH made our appointment w/ the accountant to do our income taxes. LOL!
The following day he had an "emergency" committee meeting. (OW was on committe w/ him) That night I found the Valentine she had given him...of course it was unsigned...that led me to hire PI.
So here we are a year later...he refuses to leave...refuses to commit...fence sitting. I am going to buy myself this beautiful soft nightie I saw...and not wear it on V-Day...and I think I might send myself some flowers. What will I get him? I'm not sure he deserves anything.
aka-confused42
BS-45 me
WH-42
DS-14 & DD-12
together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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Confused - I am sorry to hear of your sitch. It sounds an awfully lot like mine, so I understand how you feel, a little. My WH sent the OW flowers last year on Valentine's Day. (Shudder).
Well, enjoy your nightie. I bet it looks great on you!
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