Hello. First of all, welcome to MB. I can see that you are in alot of pain. I am very sorry for this. Nobody deserves to suffer like this.

I think you have found a good place, by coming here to MB for support and suggestions, as to how to heal in your current situation.

This site has concepts and teqniques here, that the members here are willingingly trying to follow, due to not finding the answers they've been so desperately seeking before. For some, it's a last ditch attempt, when all seems hopeless.

None of the concepts on this site suggest being a doormat. It is an approach to salvaging their marriages, (or not), with the support of either way the member chooses to go.

Yes, in some cases, it is not always suggested to continue on trying to make something work, that possibly never will. But by coming here, it helps the individual to decide which direction to take, with the backup of support. There are many different boards on this site, to support all needs of the ones who choose to come here.

In your case, I know you are really hurting, and I would really like you to start a thread of your own, and share your story with us, and maybe give us an idea of what exactly is taking place in your current situation. Start from the beginning, and maybe some of the thoughts and ideas here can help you reach the begining phases of the healing process.

This truly is not meant to upset you, just an attempt to reach out to you and offer support. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Take Care...

Jennifer68

PS...just about everyone hear can understand and relate to your pain and the intensity of that pain. We all have a story. You're not alone... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Jennifer68

bump...

Sorry it has taken me so long to respond....busy couple of days.....I must admit, that I haven't quite made up my mind about the site yet.....I think that I'm at the ANGRY stage. I can't get over my anger towards my H. I don't know.....right now, I'm numb. In the past couple of days, I have found out that I am pregnant again. This will be our 2nd together, but my 4th. I just feel completely disconnected from my own life right now, much less my marriage. I feel hopeless..........I am really hating my life right now. Maybe tomorrow I can go through my whole little spill about my relationship. I don't have the energy.

Well, it sounds like you definately have alot on your plate. I'm sorry for what you're going thru.

Post here whenever you're ready. There are LOTS of listeners here who will understand! Take care...

Jennifer

Hey, Sickofit1, just wondering how you're doing.

Same ole same ole.....My plate got a little bit more full since I was last on. I have come to terms with the pregnancy. I didn't kill myself, so I'm still alive. They say that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger...so that's a good thing, I guess. My granddad had cancer tumors removed from his bladder last week. So, I've been worrying about him. My brother told me that he was gay, so I've been trying to deal with that.......I'm still very angry at hy husband, he's more unbearable than usual....I don't know. I feel like my world is coming down around me......

I'm so sorry, Sick. It does sound like your plate is pretty full. Life sure can dish us some DOOZYS, sometimes.

I will pray for your Granddad. Mine is also going downhill pretty fast. We just take each day as it comes.

I'm sure it was a shock about your brother being gay, but, we love our family, no matter what. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Don't know what to say about your husband. Don't know enough about your situation, but I do wish you some peace with this. Just hang in there, and keep posting, and venting here. It's a great place to come for support and comforting to know, that you're not alone. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Take Care...

Jennifer

Wow, sickofit. Sorry all of this is happening to you. Trying to recover from your husband's affair, finding out you are pregnant (congratulations), having your grandfather so ill, and finding out your brother is gay. That is a whole load of stuff on your shoulders.

I hope you are taking good care of yourself. That is the most important thing right now. Do you have someone that you can lean on a little?

If you don't, (have someone to lean on), just come here and LEAN AWAY! We're here! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />