I don't know how unique this is but it sometimes just frosts me and I need a place to get it off my chest.

My XWW's OM is a very (nationally) known individual in the sporting world.

In his league he is very well known and recognized and because he is works in a major city (for a major team) and has ties to international competition as well as U.S., his name and pic show up in newspapers and magazines fairly often...or at least often enough to jar me when I pick up the paper and his mug is on the front page (very recently) or I turn the page of a magazine and there he is smiling smugly back at me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

So why does this bother me? I dunno it just reminds me of who my WW (of 12 years) decided could be a better catch than me, maybe. (I'm sure it is a male ego thing.)

Now mind you he was married (still is) and once I exposed the A it started down a path of doom that ended badly for my WW.

He ended up going back to his W, and I am sure the literally millions of $$$$ he stood to lose in a divorce settlement had something to do with that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

As my WW told me later he "burned" her good and she is/was totally ashamed and embarassed of the whole thing...

We have been divorced for nearly two years and I have moved on and am in another relationship, so it's not like I am looking for something here....it justs frosts me to see his face, know what happend and know what part he played in a very difficult time in my life.

Now, I do get some satisfaction that I am (ahem) much better looking. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Oops...did I say that out loud? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

And yes,I realize ultimately that it wasn't really him my WW was after...but more likely a combination of his lifestyle, his wealth, his influence and his "celebrity status" that I am sure she felt would rub off on her once he left the inconvenience of his wife and family.

HA! That didn't work out so well for her. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

I have come along way since D-day in 2001 and usually I can let all this roll off me but tonite I just felt like venting and even though I don't post much here any longer I figured you all wouldn't mind if I dropped by to spill this little part of my mind.

Actually I am doing quite well all things considered and now that I got all that off my chest I feel even better.

If you bothered to read this far, well, thanks for listening. I appreciate it.

My best to all!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

E

(BTW: Divorce is hard...no question about it but believe me when I say there can be wonderful life afterwards.)

Just rememeber: "You can't have the Rainbow without the Rain"

I think I can understand a bit of what you're feeling...

Many years ago, I cheated a swindled out of a significant sum of money. The person who did it has gone on to become a famous and respected community member.

When I see him in the paper on on a billboard, I tell myself "He has everyone fooled...but I know the real scoundrel behind that picture..."

There's a fundamental injustice in knowing what you know about this man, yet he a still receiving the attention and admiration of millions.

Take comfort in knowing that you aren't fooled by the hype.

As an aside, I've often thought about the affect that seeing me in the paper or seeing me open a successful business would have on the my xOW's ex-H. I am very ashamed of what I did to him, and I don't think I could rub a public presence in his face like that. I would move to another region if necessary. He didn't deserve what I did to him and he doesn't deserve to see me in his face daily.

You don't deserve what happened and is happening to you.

Sorry, Low

Ya know, after thinking about this a little for the past couple of days, maybe this ain't the worst thing in world (actually it probably never was).

At least I don't have to worry too much about running into the jerk at Wal-Mart or the grocery store or the neighborhood saloon.

I am sure some others here have that problem and wouldn't mind if the OP turned up once in a while in the newspaper as long as they remained 2,000 miles away. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

E