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I have been in Plan B since xmas. No contact whatsoever with WH since then. He left in July '04 and moved out of state. He has moved again since then (and is living wity OW), nearly 800 miles away, which gave me precious little opportunity to do any Plan A.
This is my current dilema...I desperately want to move out of this house. Even with fairly generous temporary CS and SS, I can barely make the payments and I don't have the time, energy or inclintion to keep up a 4 bedroom house with a huge yard. I found a nice, cute brand new house I could afford payments on (probably couldn't qualify for a loan on my own, but parents have offered to help)as long as WS spouse keeps up support payments. It is not my dream home, but very appropriate for what I need now and I am so ready for a fresh start in a place I can call my own. I am not in a position to sell (that is what he wants) as real estate fees would eat up whatever equity we have and there is too much work to be done to make it sellable, that he doesn't want to pay for. Not to mention the fact that he is the one who left and I don't think I should have to be the one who goes to all the trouble, hassle and expense of trying to sell, while working full time and raising his kids on my own.
The temp support order does not obligate me in anyway to make the mortgage payment where I am now, so I am very tempted to just move and tell WH he has to start making the mortgage. This will probably either force him into bankruptcy (like most WS he has been living way beyond his means) which would ultimately trash my credit as well because I am on the mortgage...or it could force him to move back here, at least until he is able to sell, so he doesn't have to pay for another place to live. He is self employed travels a great deal in his work and can basically live whereever he wants so that is not a problem. But then again..he might bring OW with him, so I am not sure what that would accomplish.
He has basically put me in a position that I can't comfortably stay where I am, but can't move either...and I am so ready to move on...emotionally and physically. Any advice or thoughts.??
