If my wife no longer wants to have a physical relationship of any kind, then my obligation for being married is no longer applies.. What I am asking is if all she wants is a roomate who pays the bills and helps with the children that he fathered.. but doesn't want any emotional or physical connection (both are the same in my opinion) than why can't i devorce her but still live with her and keep doing the same things I have been doing as a father,,, Don't split any thing up as in a convetional devorce... I work offshore and I am gone 2 weeks out of each month. I haven't cheated nore do I want too and she had not cheated and has no plan too so she says..

(both are the same in my opinion)

This may be something to think about. As a woman, I'm hoping that someday I'll meet a man who knows that emotional connections outside of the bedroom are very important to some women. I felt I was primatily a sex partner to my H, and not really his friend. His desire was to have sex twice a day - I wasn't up for that, but we did have sex at the very least 2-3 times per week.

I was so desperate to have some intimacy that wasn't sexual. He seems to only be able to connect sexually...it was hard to feel like he really loved me as a person.

> If my wife no longer wants...
> ...if all she wants is...

Do you really know what your W wants or are you just making some general assumptions?

I'll make some general assumptions and you tell me if I am off base. No disrespect intended.

If you are away from your W for 2 weeks at a stretch, I can imagine that the first thing you want from your W when you see her is sex.

Perhaps your W wants to be valued for more than that. After all, you've been away for two weeks while she has maintained the household on her own. Her job of taking care of the house and kids continues while you probably feel like you are on a sort of 'shore leave'.

When you are home, do you expect your W to care for your needs as well as continue to do her job while you sit back and relax or do you shift into father/husband mode and take some of the load off for her?

Does your W look forward to you coming home or does she dread it because it means more work for her?

In a previous post you claimed that you live your life by the Golden Rule. Do you in fact treat your W the way you would like to be treated?

Let's turn the table for a moment and imagine that your W has the higher sex drive. Would you think it OK for her to divorce you...continue to live with you and mother her children...and possibly have a physical relationship with another man or men?

Emotional and Physical relationships are poles apart. Your W may be missing the emotional relationship the she used to have with you. Maybe if she gets that back she might feel more like having a physical relationsip with you again.