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* FIRST ray of hope in this whole torrid affair... *
#1581546 02/05/06 04:21 PM
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On Sunday morning I play in the church band so I have to leave before the rest of the family. After church today, we all went out for a nice lunch and then my WW had to leave from the restaurant for work.

From there, me and the kiddos did a little shopping and then went back home to change before the SB party tonight. When I sat down at the computer, I had an email from my WW stating that she informed the OM that she will no longer be contacting him.

I haven't pushed it in a couple weeks. I've just been following Plan A to the best of my ability and trying to win her back through love.

We still have a long way to go, but it's the start I've been looking for and I give God ALL the glory for it.


FN

Divorced April 26 2007...

REMARRIED to a wonderful woman October 13, 2012!
Re: * FIRST ray of hope in this whole torrid affair... *
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WOOHOO! That is great news.

Now, for the nitpicky part,will she write a no contact letter for you to see and mail for her?

Will she do counseling with you?

I hope the best for you.

blessings
Re: * FIRST ray of hope in this whole torrid affair... *
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Hang in there. Lots of ups and downs in these things. But the fact that she says she is willing to unload the OM is very promising.
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That is promising news....believer is right, just brace yourself because if she really breaks contact with him she's going to hit withdrawls in the very near future, and could possibly call him again because she's in pain. Or she may backslide.

The good news is, at least she's thinking about it.....realizing it's wrong, and that she should stop.

Best of luck hon.

God Bless,

-Caren

Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
Re: * FIRST ray of hope in this whole torrid affair... *
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Thanks all. We've been seeing the MC regurlarly for the past couple of months. I think she'll do the NC letter, I'm going to ask tomorrow night, don't want to push too much at once.

I'm also going to encourage her to start coming here as well. Or do you think it's too soon?

FN

Divorced April 26 2007...

REMARRIED to a wonderful woman October 13, 2012!

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