Ok this may sound crazy but I need to know what to do. My ex has a peace bond on his new wifes ex husband he claims he wants to kill him. This ex husband of hers has contacted me a few times since last september, we have talked about our waward spouses and the affair and of course what was happening with out divorces and settlements. My ex just called me up and told me this is serious business and I have no right tallking to him at all. He now is saying he cannot have the kids at all now becasue I have put them in harms way because he is worried they will get hurt form this guy.

He tells me it is my fault that things are the way they are because I have talked to this ex. Apparently he now wants an appology or else he will have nothing to do with me or the kids.

First off I have never been warned by anyone to not talk to this man including the police. Second he has in no way ever said he has been out to kill him. He has mentioned he would like to punch him out but from what I have heard it is more a man to man kind of fight. Third- how could any of this have been my fault. My ex chose this life for him he had the affair even though he beleives he did not have one. He chose to get married again and take another mans wife. He has chosen to consantly use the kids as tools by changing his nights or nver seeing them because he feels he is harming me by doing this so I have no time to myself.

He keeps choosing to not get along for the kids sake and is extremely bitter that he has to pay me money. I have had to move and the kids now have to change schools next year. So he then tells me that it is my fault and I could have rented in the area even though I would not have been able to buy. He tells me if the kids grow up and become drug abusers or get into trouble it is all my fault. Yet I am the one here for them who takes them to sports who tucks them into bed every night, reads storys, helps with homework, cooks their meals, does their laundry and cares for them. As a single parent I am doing the best I can.

But when it comes to a fatherly figure they do not have one. My ex always chooses the road out and has an excuse not to have his kids overnight or care for them.

{{{{{M4f}}}}} Take a deep breath and relax. Your XH sounds like he's still trying to control your life even after leaving and marrying someone else. He has no right to tell you where to live or who to talk to and you don't have to listen to his threats and accusations regarding this. If he chooses not to see his children, it's his choice and not your fault. He can be as bitter as he wants about having to give you money, but that's his problem, not yours.

Is it possible not to talk to him since he's upsetting you so much?

Well, maybe he will swallow this:

You and the ex of his soulmate are karmically bound to be friends. You were friends in a past life but tragically separated by fate before you could enjoy the karmically ordained joys of your friendship.

Now you have been brought back in contact with each other based upon the miracle of the soulmate connection between your children's father and the ex-H of the OW. You really need to allow this friendship to grow, so as to NOT have to be reincarnated again.

[Your H is nutz]

Belle --- I was just cruising/reading and I had to choke back from spewing coke when I read your hilarious response--

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Pep, can you believe that as a kid, I was always getting punished for being a [email]smarta@@?[/email]

Bellevue I had to laugh when I read the karma stuff but that is exactly how he thinks about now. And Yet I have to agree he is NUTZ. I am having a hard time with the fact that my kids are missing their Dad and he tells them on the phone that he cannot see them because I have talked to his new wifes ex husband and he is afraid for their safety. I just worry how long this will go on, and he wants me to appologize for talking to him and I feel that I am not married to him anymore so I should be able to talk to whoever I want. What bothers him is we have talked about the fact that they have bought brand new cars with all the money she got and new furniture etc and he may be able to take his ex to court again because she lied in court and said she was not with this man and was not getting married, less than a month later they got married now she is spending her money like crazy and her ex is worried that she is now going to ask for spousal support but part of the deal was that she was given a larger pay out without spousal.