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Our second daughter is mildly autistic. My husband avoids dealing with her issues, and as a result I bear an eneven share of them. This has been going on for some time and the problems are getting worse and worse. Today I kicked his car and he is sleeping on the couch. He is in the service and we do not live near family, so outside support is limited. I could really use some advice.

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Littlebirdie - there are quite a few posters who have special needs children. I hope that someone will be able to help you with this. It must be hard.

In the meantime, why don't you put this post out on General Questions or Emotional Needs forums. They have a wider audience, I think. TT

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I have a sister who has 4 children. The middle two have down syndrome with the youngest of those being autistic as well.

Her and her hubby dealt with things in a way different way and it dang near got them to part ways several times. Then her hubby, who is a brainiac, focused his brain power on gaining knowledge about the disorders. With knowledge came understanding and fears fell by the wayside. Heck in their case, he ended up quitting his job and she went to work. He stays home with the boys. I guess what I'm saying is that when HE didn't understand it and she was having to bear the brunt of the work, things were bad. But when he understood the mechanics of the disorders, things changed. I think he feared his children because he didn't understand them.

As a result of all this, the boys truly are thriving and their marriage has improved greatly.


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I had a child with a degenerative neurological disease.

Call your local chapter of Association for Retarted Citizens (ARC)and find out about respite care. If you cannot find it in the phone book or if there is no chapter, call you local public library, ask to speak with the reference librarian. She probably has agency contacts right on her desk.


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Oldest son died 1994 @ age 8

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Have you checked with family services on the base? The military does have some very good programs to help special needs dependants. You may have to go through the Docs at the base hospital first, but it is another of those hidden bennies you have to dig for.

Good Luck & God Bless


"Never argue with idiots or WSs, They just drag you down to their level and beat you with experience"

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