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If you sign, what are you agreeing to for division of assets?
He's dragging his feet, perhaps, because he wants you to do the dirty deed. He doesn't want it on his conscience.
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Hi worthatry,
It will be a 60/40 split in the assets in favour of me and I'll get a monthly spousal maintenance payment, not quite sure what that will be but attorney tells me I'll be ok.
Thankfully, I have a good job that earns me a decent living but no where near what WS gets thats why I'll get maintenance.
I live in the UK so it might be different to what happens in the US.
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D- Day 28 october 2005, WH left, lived with OW 2 weeks before moving into apartment-affair continued they have lived together since january 2nd.
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Does WS know the terms? How did you arrive at the terms?
Are you sure you want a divorce?
Absolutely sure?
If not, sit on it.
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WS knows the terms but is not particularly happy about it, I don't think he knew how much he would have to give up.
Still not sure about the divorce, I think I might sit on it a few days, there is no real rush to file although I do to some extent feel pressured by WS even though we have little contact.
ME(BS)-45
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5 grown up children, 2 granchildren due August 06
OW-35, 2 children 8yrs and 6yrs
D- Day 28 october 2005, WH left, lived with OW 2 weeks before moving into apartment-affair continued they have lived together since january 2nd.
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Do you play poker? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
If he's pressuring you AND you decide you want the divorce, consider going back to him with a 90/10 split. Settle for as low as 70/30. See how bad he wants it.
Of course, don't engage in this without your attorney's guidance.
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That's an idea, I haven't even thought about negotiation. I might be able to use this fog to my advantage as somebody suggested earlier.
Perhaps I should start playing poker!
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5 grown up children, 2 granchildren due August 06
OW-35, 2 children 8yrs and 6yrs
D- Day 28 october 2005, WH left, lived with OW 2 weeks before moving into apartment-affair continued they have lived together since january 2nd.
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I might be able to use this fog to my advantage as somebody suggested earlier. That was me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> WAT
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I thought you sounded clever.
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5 grown up children, 2 granchildren due August 06
OW-35, 2 children 8yrs and 6yrs
D- Day 28 october 2005, WH left, lived with OW 2 weeks before moving into apartment-affair continued they have lived together since january 2nd.
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Update today,
WS emailed saying we should accept the offer on the house.
He is well aware that he is losing his full family but still wants to go through with all of this.
I thought he may come to his senses and return to the family but it appears that he is happy living with MOW and her children.
Should I now be trying to come to terms with the fact that this is the real deal for them and he may be happier with her than with me and the family or should I still hold out hope for his return?
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HIM(WH)-48
5 grown up children, 2 granchildren due August 06
OW-35, 2 children 8yrs and 6yrs
D- Day 28 october 2005, WH left, lived with OW 2 weeks before moving into apartment-affair continued they have lived together since january 2nd.
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