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#1584060 02/08/06 10:40 AM
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Below is a link to an article about how some police officers are being dealt with when they commit adultery.

http://www.local6.com/news/6833079/detail.html?subid=22100428&qs=1;bp=t

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Hunh. I wish they'd put that into effect in TX!

We've got the GOB syndrome (Good ol'boy). Wookie's CO could've given a dam* less.

Of course there was a guy on the force with Wookie @ the same time that was fooling around with one of the dispatchers. His wife was laid up in the hospital and she couldn't get ahold of him so she called the SO. They sent deputies over to his house, and his kids were there by themselves - they had to break the door down b/c the kids were too scared to answer. There was a LOADED gun by his bed and those kids were alone. On a whim the deputies went over to OW's house. She swore up and down he wasn't there. So they left. Not 5 min. later Cheater called in and said that he'd heard they were looking for him. Um. Yeah, right, not at OW's house....Not a thing happened to Cheater, but OW got unpaid suspension for lying to the deputies....THAT'S IT.

Cheater left the wife and kids for OW. Get this - the kids weren't the wife's bio children. They were her step children THAT SHE LEGALLY ADOPTED.

I'm still steamed about this. But - he's gettin' his. OW is a kooze of the worst kind (not as bad as ours, but still)....they are living in absolute squallor!

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Pinellas County sheriff's Chief Deputy Dennis Fowler said he has seen so many cases of deputy-involved cases of adultery leading to 911 calls that he has decided to suspend deputies over the action.

Fowler said the suspension can be given to any deputy, regardless of whether they are married or single.

"It goes beyond just your individual relationship with someone else. It affects other people in the workplace, people's ability to do their job, and I think that is relevant," Fowler said.

Authorities said it only makes sense for law enforcement managers to send a message to their workers, that adulterous behavior is trouble.

If a complaint is filed, and the offender is caught, the deputy could get up to a three-day suspension from work.

There have not been any offenders punished under the adultery policy, according to the report.

[color:"red"]I wonder if the ACLU plans to threaten a law suit ??? I wouldn't be surprised.

I also wonder how/if the local police union will support this edict.
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Dealan,

Please tell me the children aren't with their Dad?
That their adoptive mother has custody?

Please, the poor kids.

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Yeah. She's their mom....really and truly.

It was a pretty tight knit office, but after that I could never look at the OW or the Cheater again. I couldn't talk to them...I couldn't even say hello.

How do you trust someone to "have your back" if he can do this to his kids and his wife who just had MAJOR surgery.

Wookie feels the same way...now that his fog has cleared.

As taint EVERYTHING they touch. EVERYTHING!


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I've love to see this type of policy in ANY workplace situation.

If the cheaters are both working for a company, I believe they BOTH should be fired. But, I know that's not what happens in most cases.

It just seems no one really cares in most cases what people do anymore. There are no standards for behavior.


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[color:"red"]I wonder if the ACLU plans to threaten a law suit ??? I wouldn't be surprised.

I also wonder how/if the local police union will support this edict.
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Oh, they'll sue for sure! And, unfortunately win.

They'll argue that what the deputies do on their own time is their own business. Such a suit will win against a general department policy that wasn't pre-established as a condition for continued employment.

But it would be fun to watch the police union defend the deputies.

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Of more importance.... http://www.local6.com/news/6807099/detail.html

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In the business I am starting, all employees are signing "character clauses." Adultery is included in that. In this way, should they break the character clause, their butts will be out on the street that day!!

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This is certainly not in any way to show offense to any of the above posters. I do not disagree with anything y'all have said, but....

Perhaps I am the only one who feels like this, but I just can not help but feel, and this is what keeps me going quite often, that...

What goes around - comes around.

They will get their's. If they are not already in living in pain.

Of course, I totally agree with Police, etc. being of good character since they are supposed to be protecting me, etc. This goes without saying.

I know alot of us here believe very strongly in God and therefore, with that same thought process, I believe that no one except God, because who is mightery ?? can dish out the kind of punishment they deserve.

Hope I do not offend anyone with this and you understand what I am trying to say. I really hate to keep harping on the WGACA - but that thinking helps me alot to not control or feel bad when slighted.

Ok... back to intelligent discussing....

My best to y'all -- Car


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