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#1584394 02/08/06 03:26 PM
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I'm a little confused as to what y'all have been through. She filed for divorce, did y'all have a hearing where she was put under oath as to her intent to divorce? If y'all did, then from that day there is a 60 day waiting period, at which time, a divorce would be granted.

Provided your side did not initiate any paperwork rescending the motion for divorce and her side didn't draw anything up, then yes, in theory the divorce itself could still be going forward, but cannot just automatically happen. It would then take either you or her or someone acting on your behalfs to finalize the actual divorce, this is apart from and seperate from the custody, CS, and all other issues.


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Very, very doubtful your divorce could be final without an agreement or hearing on custody, division of assets and liabilities, etc. Since your posts do not indicate any of those things occurred, I would suspect your WW is smoking her socks, again. Quite frankly, I am beginning to wonder whether your wife is doing drugs of some type given her truly off the wall behaviors and statements.

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Very, very doubtful your divorce could be final without an agreement or hearing on custody, division of assets and liabilities, etc.

Brit, Dazed and I are from the same great state and it's very common for the actual divorce to be granted, while all others issues are still tied up. Heck, my divorce was actually final before mediation for division of assets and custody issues. It was filed in May, final in July, with the hearing to determine custody and division of assets etc. happening on Sep 11 on the year of the plane crashes...


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Well then I would say that the "Court" is waiting on a 'Journal Entry' to drop the case, which obviously has not been done if her lawyer is spouting stuff in her ear. Thus, I would say that y'all are on track, unless stopped by her side, to be 'legally divorced' in 19 days.

You have a good lawyer, don't fret too much until you talk to him.

On a side note, did you you ever get that copy of the GAL report and what did it say?


"""she needs to move in order to get shared custody of our DD12."""

This is laughable, I'm presuming he's saying shared physical custody. Well, I did a little research in our county back in my divorce days, and it's basically NEVER been ordered unless agreed upon by both parties. Why? Because our common sense judges believe if y'all can't agree upon that, then how can you co-parent at the level that 'shared' physical custody requires.

Anywho, bottom line is you wife is her lawyers boss and he is suppose to do what she requests, I guess I'd question what she's actually requesting........


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Is the request in writing??? If not it should be!! If OM man is paying the bill then the lawyer is working for him not your wife.

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Well (((Dazed))), in the event that everything doesn't go right, I do hope you've kept up on your journaling and will be prepared to give it all over to you atty. Actually, the unstability and harmful risks shown in the past month by OM and wife have done nothing but solidify your case...


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Hang in there {{{Daze}}}}.

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You should avoid any contact and let your lawyer talk to hers. For 2 reasons, you pay the guy and to avoid here/say down the road.

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