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I posted this on hopeandpray's thread and didn't want to threadjack, but wanted to know everyone's opinion on this... On another note, what is it with nurses and infidelity? I don't mean to sterotype but it seems there is a disproportionately high number of nurses (even MD's like lem) who are either WS or BS based on the posts I have read on these boards.
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Alot of people in the medical field are emotionally unbalanced. Workaholics and martyr roles abound.
I dunno if that's why, but I know that there's alot of people in medical that aren't at peace with themselves.
The advice given is not that of a professional and may be in conflict with Marriage Builders.
The advice is of high quality however.
I can give best insight when the relationship in question is that of two people and one God.
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Hey there HTW I responded to you under my thread with my opinion.
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nevermind - on second thought, I was over reacting because this hit quite close to home.
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oh brother <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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Hey I am taking that quite personal!!! As a nurse myself, I could not even imagine going with a doc. We nurses know who really knows the patients and has the superior knowledge.
I just think that nurses and healthcare professionals are more apt to discuss thier problems with others and know the benefit of that. See its the knowledge I tell ya!
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First let me qualify this for all of the hard working and marriage committed nurses in the profession. This is not meant for you (specifically Justempty)
However, I do believe it is more the lifestyle issue than anything else. I think you will find the infidelity taking place at a much higher rate on the off shifts with nurses, interns, paramedics, doctors, etc. due to the lifestyle. Also, I think all the death and misery that comes into the hospital cannot help but rub off and make you a little harder on the inside. In addition, there is a lot of down time and time to sit around and drink coffee, share medical stories and common interests (almost like playing on a tight knit sports team), personalities torub off on one another, discuss soap operas and other trash TV, read COSMO, fight boredom, criticize each other's spouse, etc. This is not conducive to a good marriage. If this works out with WW you can rest assured that my WW will never work in a health care environment again. If it doesn't work out I will not date anyone that does.
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I'm a nurse too! I have NEVER been attracted to docs (sorry Lem). Crisis situations forge bonds, and stress and "outsiders" have a difficult time relating to it. So I guess there are support systems forged. I guess the same goes for cops and soldiers and firefighters.
Nurses tend to be self sacrificing...working thru lunch...not going to bathroom until shift is done...we take care of other people and not ourselves. So I guess if someone understood your situation and showed a little attention it would go along way. Except I've never had an A or even been tempted (at work anyway).
I hear truck drivers and plumbers are active too...and pizza guys...traveling salesman...cable guys...teachers...heck we are all at risk!
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I would point out that most of our nurses and doctors here are BS's. It is their SPOUSE who is the WS and I don't know of any who are in the medical profession.
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***I would point out that most of our nurses and doctors here are BS's. It is their SPOUSE who is the WS and I don't know of any who are in the medical profession.***
Well, there was Mom23Boys and her outrageous Dr.-as-in-MD WH . . .
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ok, there is one. But one is not out of the ordinary and certainly does not a trend make.
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I'm a nurse too! I have NEVER been attracted to docs (sorry Lem). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.
I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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I'm a nurse too! I have NEVER been attracted to docs (sorry Lem). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> ok, fess up, Dr LM, y'all are a bunch o' alley cats in heat, aren't ya??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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No offense to anyone that took hope post personally but you obviously didn't read what he said because he said WS and BS.
Not just WS, but WS and BS!
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No offense to anyone that took hope post personally but you obviously didn't read what he said because he said WS and BS.
Not just WS, but WS and BS! quit ruining our fun!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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I'm a nurse too! I have NEVER been attracted to docs (sorry Lem). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> ok, fess up, Dr LM, y'all are a bunch o' alley cats in heat, aren't ya??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Well, as to some of my colleagues behavior (MD and RN alike) I can concur....."alley cats in heat"....yeah, that would be an accurate assessment....but I suspect no more or less than the cheaters of our society in general <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> But I could tell ya some stories <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.
I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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This IS kind of fun....... I could also tell some stories......having been a nurse myself for 33 years now.......and unfortunately have now fallen into the category of just another "statistic" myself. I've seen a lot! K <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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But I could tell ya some stories <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Lem, your hospital is not like Grey's Annatomy...is it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> My WW loves that show <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> It seems everyone is doing everyone on that show. Hey, I'm an engineer and if I recall correctly I think Dazed is one too, so maybe there is something with BS's and engineers <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
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Sorry Mel......2..... My STBXWW - Nurse OM(also married) - Doc They work for an Air Ambulance service....or at least he did, but as a pilot. Shift work, close living environment, and the Air medical conference in Reno of all places contributed. I don't blame the medical profession though, or even male doctors.......heck, the poor guys are usually cursed with shoulders like a trout. Who would want to look like that! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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