my wife of 6 months (together 7+yrs) was caught by me having an internet affair (strictly internet), after which she confessed to having a fling six years ago during a break up (initiated by her). She has just recently (2 days ago) agreed to stop contact with this guy, but didn't understand why they couldn't just be "friends". I discovered this "affair" in November, and she initially said she thought she was in love with him, but later retracted, said it wasn't love. But she still wouldn't give him up. She didn't see why they couldn't still be friends. Now that she has finally given him up, I get the news that she has just been accepted to flight attendant school, which can last up to eight weeks and is a few thousand miles away. She could leave in two weeks. Just when it seems there is a break in the clouds, more rain. Had this never happened, her going away would be no more that me just missing her, but considering our circumstances, I am feeling overwhelmed. Any advice would be appreciated. I love this woman with all of my heart and soul and she reassures me that she feels the same way- I was looking forward to healing and finally starting our marriage the right way, but now it feels like I have to find a microwave version of healing so I don't drive myself crazy while she is away. What can I(we) do to ease my mind?

any advice on how to deal with all of this? I just feel so alone

Can you ask her to fill out the emotional needs questionnaire while she is gone and you guys can talk about it on the phone each night. Can you visit her at all while she is away? Will she write a no contact letter that you approve to the OM and send it to him outlining her committment to her marriage and you? From personal experience, don't act too needy before she leaves. This is not attractive (I know its hard to do) and I have finally learned this over time. Be strong and independent but make sure she knows you want to build a new and better marriage that meets both of your needs like never before.

Read everything on here while she is gone. There is so much great advice from people who have and are living what you are living.