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Anyone ever go thru a D for OM/OW even though your BS tried so hard to make things work?
Did it leave you wondering "WHAT IF"? if things werent so picture perfect with OM/OW ?
If you did make the wong decision, did you or did you not try and return to your BS? Why? and How hard was it for you?
I have many things going thru my head right now... I need some answers..
I am BS with WW
I hope Im not asking the wrong things here... I need to know....
Last edited by lostonceagain; 02/11/06 10:24 AM.
me- BS 37
her-FWW 35
15+years in M
4 boys- 14,14,12,2 (ours)
Knew of A Feb 06
Proof of A Jan 06 (found info)
Exposed Feb 06
R as of 3 March 06-so far so good
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I am not a xWW. I was the BS.
My xh had to go thru w/it as he had gotten ow pregnant and she was tossing about ultimatums and legalities at him...
made sense to his foggy little head. and it pushed me over to divorce him.
I know now that he was ALWAYS WONDERING if he did the wrong thing...as he did it.
but sadly, sometimes it will not stop them from their destructive behaviors and want to change.
me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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Thank you for your response....
see... WW had asked me if (being scared) that what if she made the wrong choice, would I take her back? This leads me to believe that there is hope.. she still tells me she loves me and always will, I know its my past actions that have she doesn't like.. and I am getting C for me alone to find out what the root of the problem is...
I would love to tell her YES, but I cannot predict the future and that would almost give her the OK to procede and 'test the waters'
me- BS 37
her-FWW 35
15+years in M
4 boys- 14,14,12,2 (ours)
Knew of A Feb 06
Proof of A Jan 06 (found info)
Exposed Feb 06
R as of 3 March 06-so far so good
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Lost, many of them do threaten divorce and never follow through. Your job is get your act together and get into Plan A and stop playing around. You need to stop reacting emotionally and take control of this situation if you want to save your marriage.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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