Kgirl, why are you letting your WH practice at your house? Are you back in plan A? It seems to me you are prime for plan B. Too many false recoveries..believe me sweetie, I have been there. I could easily count about 6 false recoveries before my H finally ended the A. 2 years and one OC later we are very early in recovery. You MUST clearly define your own personal boundaries.

Yes I told them they could continue to have practice here until WH finds a new place. It really is fine for now. I will just go away for the time he will be there.

I expect it will only be one more practice anyway.

K

Hi Faithful,

Havent seen you around. I dont know what plan I am in other than the "WH moving out plan". I have plan A'd till I dont know that I can do that anymore. I have managed a whole day with no contact and I havent heard from him either.

I know his conscience is weighing heavy and he feels a lot of guilt. But still maintains that he loves her and not me, at least not that way.

So I am open to suggestions. We have done this little dance now close to 8 or so times. But he seems pretty determined this time.

Today I just dont really care. Guess thats the drugs talkin there. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

K

If you committed to doing what you said you would...file for divorce, obtain legal separation papers and separate maintenance...whatever those terms are with a Texas divorce (and I think just getting a shotgun is legal down there, but I'm no lawyer)...then do it, Kgirl.

Do what you said you would do if he made contact.

Follow through.

No more contact...no more coming to the house or calling on the phone...no more email.

Stop altogether.

And do it out of love. Sincere love. Your choice love. You are lovingly getting out of the way of his own consequences. No vengeance involved. Just you restraining from contacting him because you love yourself enough, want to respect and honor God's love for you, to do exactly what you said you would--that your family is worth your effort. And that you respect your WH's choices as his own.

Period.

LA

Did I mention it is snowing like crazy??? Like CRAZY!

LA

No you didnt mention it was snowing. Dont ya just love this time of year between shorts and sweaters? One day shorts, one day parkas. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

K

Exactly!

How ya doing?

LA

I hear what you are saying, LA. I guess I am as bad as he is sometimes.

Son has court tomorrow. Not sure what is going to happen there. WH texted me today and said he was sorry he hurt me and hoped I would forgive him. He emailed DS21 that he still loved me very much but didnt think love was enough. Said I hurt him a great deal over the years and he cant seem to let that go. But that he knew he hurt me but he didnt do it intentionally. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
Can you see the steam comin out of my ears yet?

Anyway, working on things as best I can. Have counciling appt tomorrow. After court. Might need that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

K

Rely on your kids to know truth...not his. Do not buy into his viewpoint because it is his warped one, 'k? Your kids know better. Trust them. Stay true to yourself and don't believe what WH believes....eeewwwwwwwweeeeee

This is something you will really have to learn with your children, friends and relatives. They have their truth, not THE truth.

Choose wisely.

Good luck with court tomorrow. Change your cell number tomorrow...no more texts, calls, etc. Just do it, Kgirl.

Let it all out at counseling! You go! LOL

Hey, my corn is already done from the steam comin' out of your ears...thanks!

LA

DS19 was sentenced to 1 yr state jail minus time served. All other charges dismissed for pleading guilty to this one. Has to serve every day, no good time.

So, my husband has left me for another woman and my son is in the pen. Can life be any better?

K

((((KG)))) Sad for you. TT

Pen? I thought it was pokey? That would mean what, seven more months?

Is state jail better or worse than city jail?

Can we send him stuff? Like books, paper, writing pens?

This isn't about you...neither one. Independent choices...your heart feels it, I know. Certain to grow from it?

LA

Okay, my lousy humor aside...

Are you going to ditch MB again?

Come back...my abandonment fear is rising...

LA

Not ditching, LA. Just a lot on my mind and cant seem to get it out here. I cant seem to follow the MB "rules" so I just read.

Hope you are well.
K

No ditching? Well, I'll have to revise my attendance chart, missy.

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How's the reading going? How's Plan B? How dark are you? (Wondering about tanning in Texas, of course)

I love your new quote in our sigline...kinda goes well with my attendance humor.

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Thinking of ya,

LA

I am still here but dont get to spend much time reading these days. Busy with school stuff with DD and having to share the internet is a bummer.

But I am still around and check in. Not hot enough for me to lay out yet and if I do I like water. So I am going to go to Florida to stay with a girlfriend for a few weeks as soon as school is out. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hope all is well.
Katie

Sounds like Florida is custom-made for Plan B.

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Are the practice sessions through at home?

When you're in Florida, will the house be locked up or will WH have access? The boarder?

I'm concerned is all. Probably none of my bidness, huh?

Don't forget the sunscreen.

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LA

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Got it, Kg3...email on the way.

LA