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Hi everyone, I've just been wondering:
What's the longest Plan B that's been done and been successful? And by "successful" I mean in terms of restoring the marriage; no offence meant to anyone who's gone on to be successful in other ways, I'm just wondering about this.
Anyone?
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harley recommends 18 months in plan b
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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*cough* *hack* *cough cough cough*
REALLY?
Wow. I didn't know that.
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Don't worry. After that amount of time, it's you who will probably want to be out of the marriage more than your WH.
The beauty of plan B is that it protects your heart and feelings for your WS, whilst at the same time preparing you for the big D, should it come to that.
It only has to last as long as you want it to!
Alph.
Me, BS 37
Him, WXH (Noddy) 40
DD13, DD6
Married 14th August 1993
D/Day 2nd April 05
Noddy left us 3rd April 05, lives with OW (Omelette) 28
Divorce final 6th July '06.
Time wounds all heels... - Groucho Marx
...except when it doesn't. - Graycloud
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Also, there are a lot of Plan B's that turned into Plan D's where the spouses divorced and then got back together years later!
I recently read an account of a man who left his wife and kids for the OW, married her and started another family. Ten years later, the OW had another affair and left him for the OM, taking their kids with her! Who did he turn to for comfort and support? His ex-wife.
They are now remarried. Their (now adult) children and extended family are delighted.
So there you go.
Alph.
Me, BS 37
Him, WXH (Noddy) 40
DD13, DD6
Married 14th August 1993
D/Day 2nd April 05
Noddy left us 3rd April 05, lives with OW (Omelette) 28
Divorce final 6th July '06.
Time wounds all heels... - Groucho Marx
...except when it doesn't. - Graycloud
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Thanks, Alphin. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Not looking to compare things to my sitch, though. I was just wondering.
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I've been in plan B for 14 months. I've been listening to Dr. Harley and as Mimi says, he's absolutely convinced that As last 2 years so if you want a chance for your marriage you have to wait for the A to be over: 2 years (unless of course it ends before). As Alphin says, by the time you've plan Bed for that time YOU may not want your S back, because you have recovered from the whole mess. If you do do plan B correctly, YOU WILL BE SUCCESSFUL whatever happens in about 2 years. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I'l let you know my experience in a few months.
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Wow, CC, that's endurance! Keep us updated.
Thanks for the added info, too.
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