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Welcome to marriagebuilders.

"Despite both of our infidelity to our partners, we are both upfront with each other about the situation and our feelings towards each other"

That will soon change. It might take a year or two, but you are both cheaters. You will never be able to trust each other.

The statistics are against you. You have less than a 3% chance of marrying and being happy.

If you insist on continuing this sleazy relationship, please tell your girlfriend, and have the other woman tell her boyfriend. That is only fair.

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If you're in your late twenties... I'm assuming the other couple is also in their late twenties.

If you've been with your GF for 5 years, I'm assuming you were both very young, when you moved in together.

Perhaps..you were just too young? You weren't ready for that level of committment>

You haven't said you want your GF back..so I'm assuming you've pretty much ruled that out.

Did you ever speak of marriage...were you engaged or anything of that sort?

Stop focusing on the women in your life...what do YOU want?

Maybe you don't want to settle down yet.

But you said you and GF broke up correct?

So you've cut those ties... cut the ties with WW.

Maybe at a later date and time...you'll feel differently.

To be honest sweetie..if WW was interested...she'd have left OO by now.

Your not married...you don't have children... play the field... learn about what you want in a relationship.

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it doesn't sound like you or WW know what love is.


The advice given is not that of a professional and may be in conflict with Marriage Builders. The advice is of high quality however. I can give best insight when the relationship in question is that of two people and one God.
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Joel just my 2 cents, even if you have "taken A break from your girl friend" WW still is in a relationship & you are both being selfish, be together or not but your girlfriend & her boyfriend should know where they stand, its only fair.

Cliff

FYI, WW on this board usually means wayward wife


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Hi Joel_Gray,

The foundation of any relationship is trust. You need to be trustworthy and you need a partner you trust.

Love and romance are great but they have to be built on a foundation of trust otherwise it won't last.

So, if you're looking for something that will last you need to become trustworthy and you need to find a woman you trust.

From what you have told us about your past relationship, you have some work to do with your own character before you are ready for a real relationship. And the woman you're interested in doesn't seem like someone you can trust. If she is cheating on her bf what makes you think she won't cheat on you? Think about that.

--Good Luck


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