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I'm just about at the end of my patience. I think it's time to get on the timeline for the big D.
CH has decided he can't pay for DS's college tuition because he needs the money for himself. He had the nerve to send me his itinerary for his New Zealand trip. At least now we know when he'll be out-of-the-country. Of course, it had the prices of the lodging on it. I asked him to explain how he has spent DS's college money on the trip.
It makes me really sad. Not just the money but the fact that this is the type of trip that 2 years ago, we would have taken together. I'm the one who loves to travel. He's the one who grumbled about staying at home. My inlaws, before Christmas, even offered to stay with DD if I was to go with him. Of course, they don't realize that CH doesn't want me with him.
My inlaws, ah, what charming people they are. My dear mother in law decided this year that she wouldn't send any Valentine's to anybody in our family. I guess she decided that her cheating son is more important than her grandchildren. These are the folks who lectured me about how love is considerate, kind and forgiving.
I haven't heard anything from them since I sent the reply to their very out-of-line letter.
I don't feel bad about Valentine's Day. I feel like I want to move on. CH was never a big one for the holiday. Perhaps it's time to look for someone with values more in line with mine.
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Me: BS XCH: Clueless 2-DS: Bigger than me 1-DD: Now also bigger than me!
5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers 6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved 7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about? Mediation set for November Final dissolution in January 2007. 2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
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I'm sorry to hear that about the college money. When my wh does things to hurt me, I can take it well enough--but my boys--well, that's another story. I don't accept the fog excuse when it comes to his behavior with them.
I hate to admit it, but I'm feeling a lot along the lines of your last paragraph--except I can't fathom even being with another.
And sorry about the inlaws.
Intexas
BW-me, 29 XH, 29 3 sons-now 6,4,2 Divorce final--Sept. 27, 2006.
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