N THE MORNING I AWAKE,UNDER THE MOON I FALL ASLEEP. I SMILE UNDER THE SUNSHINE,AT NIGHT IS WHEN I WEEP. YOUR KISS IS MY GOOD MORNING, YOUR TOUCH IS MY MIDDAY. AT SUNDOWN YOU ARE IN THE DISTANCE,AT MIDNITE YOU WALK AWAY.IN MY DREAMS YOU RE TO THE EAST ,IN REALITY I LOOK WEST. I BREAK AND MEND WHEN THE SEASONS CHANGE, WHILE WISHING FOR THE BEST. I HANG OFF YOUR YOUR EVERY WORD, YOUR IGNORANCE IS BLISS. AND ONLY BECAUSE I LOVE YOU,IS WHY I LIVE LIKE THIS!
Angela, Your soon to be ex husband is most likely in the midst of a full blown romantic, physical, love affair. That is why he told you the things he did, that the marriage was over, etc. People usually never leave a marriage (without abuse) unless they have another person lined up.
I don't think he is playing a game. This is just the aftermath of an affair. Your WH is very confused right now. The problem with romantic love affairs are that they are fantasy, not reality. They have jumped ship from one long term relationship into another. This is not a healthy way to start a relationship. Since he did not end yours properly, such as trying to fix whatever he was not happy about, neither one of you have closure. You still have deep feelings for one another. Yesterday was V's day and today he is panicky and sending you flowers and a love letter, an incoherent one at that. He is throwing you an olive branch.
Your marriage could most likely be saved if you would want to. Read everything you can here, get and read Surviving an Affair and His Needs, Her Needs.
Start a Plan A, no angry outbursts or disrespectful judgements, and try to show him that you can be there for him. Try to figure out what was lacking in your marriage and ask yourself if you'd to change these things. If you want to try to save your marriage, put the divorce on hold.
Let us know what's going on and how you feel about all of this. Good luck.
S.
