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Consider the request(s) granted.

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Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.

I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

LOL!
I just noticed this new addition to your sig line.....

Daisy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />


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You caught my interest mr. lemon,

what request?

(your not leaving are you)?

That wouldn't be cool....I really enjoy reading your posts

resident lurker - Rachel

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BS (me) - 30
FWS - 32
dd - 11
dd- 2 years
together 8 years
married 8/25/02
PA - 5/03 ended 12/31/03
Separated 3/18/04 to 6/30/04
DD 5/27/04
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sour male: <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Got anymore "questions" that I can jump into and get Even more people pissed at me???? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

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Arrrrrgh......I ignored this post for like 5 or 6 minutes but it didn't go away(You know you've always admired my willpower LMAO)......so okay, I'll bite......

God Bless,

-Caren


Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

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Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
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I suspect there will be a number of posters leaving for the time being due to Tempest's chastising. Time will tell.
We are already missing a few.


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Well, I hope not! I really needed these guys and their "tough" words when I was going through a tough time. I was scared to death, but I followed their advise, contacted OWH and it was the BEST thing I could have done. It saved me, and probably my marriage!

Also, I haven't had the chance to thank LM for suggesting a book by Jack Canfield that I am almost done with, and most likely has changed my life.

We are all adults here, with very adult problems. I thank all for their input. Like they say in Alanon, "take what you want, and leave the rest."

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That could be true, Trix. And that's a shame. Because of the chastising, a lot of people might never get the help they need. Very sad.

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Caren? I don't think biting lemonman is very respectful.

But I respect your choice to do so.

:::ducking::::

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Lemonman, since I am beginning to suspect that this thread you started had something to do with the *other* thread, that I am glad to see is "falling off the charts", I would like you to know one thing...okay, two things.

First, I *never* complained about you to any of the mods. You disagreed with me, but you did it in a respectful fashion. I am cool with that. In life, everyone does not agree - why should MB be different?

Second, I enjoy your posts. You are intelligent and forthright. There may be times that I disagree with your approach, but again, everyone is different.

If you are considering leaving MB, I wish that you would reconsider. We need a dr in the house.

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I feel the same as penaltykill.

I reported someone else to JustUss FROM Lemonman's thread,
that was unnecessarily attacking penaltykill and survivor with rudeness and a superior and condescending tone.

But not a word was said to the mod about Lemonman.
Did NOT have a problem with his opinions; he wasn't
personally berating others.

I feel a calm atmosphere on this forum WITHOUT one thread being continually brought to the top with extreme arguing trying to pin posters with 'their' need to always be RIGHT. Anyone else noticing that?

It is rather nice; just people giving one another, thoughtful caring advice.

Maybe not as 'exciting'and heart pounding to read but indeed the way it should be here. This forum wasn't meant for 'entertainment'.


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Tattle Tale! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <sticks out tongue>

relax, relax <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Just funnin with ya. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

After the other thread,
thought perhaps a little was in order <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

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I think concentrating more on helping actual people in crisis and less on these personal opinion/procedural discussions (that usually dissolve into worthless bickering) would be the best thing that could happen to the board.

800 hits whether BS's should sleep with the WS (which there is NO definitive answer to, so the whole thing is absolutely pointless), vs. 5 post to a new poster.

That's been buggin me, lately.

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I have not posted in a while but I have been bothered by the nonsense I saw on the Karma thread, so I am posting now.

Lem,

As you know we are partially cut from the same cloth in terms of temperament with respect to infidelity (just like Longhorn, Cymanca, Gimble, Bigkahuna and some others). So whatever you do, don’t leave MB as we really appreciate your input and I have come to really looking forward to your posts. Please do not let the few we wholeheartedly disagree with on this issue of exposure make you leave MB. (And yes, I am talking about Penaltykill, celt06, shinethrough and eldente).


Mel,

You are my hero, and I hope you don’t disappear either.

Top Rope,

Killer post on the Karma thread btw. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

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Lemonman gives honest and intelligent opinions.

He does NOT hold hands...Or gently talk to yout to you...unless he feels like it. In fact, his real nine to five job, like mine, requires we do NOT do that.

He tells you like it is.

Like it or NOT.

And I would agree that 99 percent of the time, this man is on track.

So many people want the fairytale coming true. Many times IT DOES...AND MANY TIMES IT DOES NOT.

And like medicine, you take people on a case by case basis.

We are LUCKY a guy like this wants to take the time outta his busy day saving other people's arses to stop by here and save a few more.

MB is awesome. It is a way to live to me. A way to treat others. A way to help a great marriage...a way to help a budding relationship (as with me) or a way to learn how to treat a relative. It is all applicable information.

But unfortunately NOT all here will have it saved or restored...marriage that is. Just like my line of work. We save the majority...a few don't have that happen sadly.

And if you want to just simply feel good about yourelf at the end of the day, then you can do it. But if you want truth...ask for it. If you want honest opinions here, ask for it.

This man I consider a MB hero. LIke myself, he did NOT save his marriage...and it was not meant to be. He did however SAVE THE LIFE OF THE OM...and SHOWED TO THE WORLD THAT YOUR COMMITTMENT TO YOUR FELLOW MAN AND TO LIFE IS IMPORTANT AND THAT HE BELIEVES IN FAITH MORE THAN HE LETS ON.

It amazed me that this man could set aside his wife's blatant and crude affair to be able to save the very life of the OM. He is a true hero in every sense of the phrase.

If you don't keep posting Lemonman, I will be mad! I love ya dude!


me:37 BS; s:7; xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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Ditto to Peachy's post...... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
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Re: Ask and you shall receive...

I registered ...
And I'm asking, please don't leave it that is your intent.

Ive been lurking here for 18 months or so and enjoy your posts. I,ve been married for 26 years, we have our share of issues which I will probably post on sometime soon now I have registered. Mine don't seen near as bad though when I read of other people's problems.

I've learned a lot from MB, hearing everyone's opinions on different issues.

Thank You all,
Layla

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I have been struggling not to post to this thread...

But I'm beginning to hear the violins playing...

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />


I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Way to go, Layla! Glad you registered and spoke.

LM...now that's a cool honor Layla gave ya.

Mimi...your humor tickles me so often. Time I said that.

LA

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