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Hi all!!!! I'm going to try to post & check in here. My internet is working & I am scanning it now....A neighbor's husband came over & is helping me get things back to normal!!
Big shock for me today. I received A DOZEN RED ROSES today from WH. They were a day late b/c I left work early yesterday. He sent them with a note:
"You are loved"
What the heck does that mean? So, o.k. I am in Plan B. I can't send him a thank you or anything.
Melody Lane!!! It is all I can do not to send him a quick text message!!!!! Just a "Thanks"???
ARGH. This is so hard. And I am so confused by his note.
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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You are stong!! You will remain in Plan B NC!!
I will be your cheerleader...lol
D-day 5-18-05
35 BS (me)
52 WH
17 DS
15 DD
14 DDs twins
Currently in R.
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference" The Serenity Prayer
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Yeah.....that's a hard one not to reply to, eh? You know, if you can ignore this....not respond, then he's going to have to seriously re-think his plan and actually meet your Plan B demands. I mean, yeah.....roses are definitely like Plan B kryptonite, I feel your pain. Well, this, at least means he's thinking about you, so that can't be bad. So......my post isn't an answer exactly. I don't want to say "DEFINITELY DON'T RESPOND" because that would make me a giant hypocrite, because lord knows it takes a whole lot less to get a response outta me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> God Bless, -Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Thanks Justempty & Caren --
My phone is sitting right here, just waiting for me to text message him.
He has not once come close to telling me he wants to work on the M. So, I just have to hold out for that.
The roses are beautiful!!! It's hard looking at them and not considering picking up the phone.
He is trying to get me to soften up. No response is SOOOO hard.
By the way, he said(in a note) he sent up a check for the gas bill with DS 2 weeks ago. I never saw it.
Is this a sign he is coming out of the fog?
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Woo Hoo Kim! I'm not telling you what to do because I would be on that phone so fast wanting to know more, and then I would be on my rear so fast wondering what hit me!!
Anyway, it means something I'm sure!
Good luck! Mellll??????????
S.
Me/BS 48
Married 16 yrs/together 23; 1 child
Dday 4/05; WH "needed space" and left 5/05
WH Filed D papers 6/05 - Divorce final 12/05
WH moved in with OW 11/05; moved out OW 1/06
12/06 His 3rd and strongest attempt at reconcilliation (I believe OW still in picture)
2/07 Affair over, begging me to take him back - it's too late.
WH has tried numerous times to reconcile.
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Hold strong and steady. If you do it, he will come. But you want him to come to you for the right reasons, not to eat his cake too. Hold tight and strong, until he breaks contact for sure and follows the map back to you. IMVHO
JE
D-day 5-18-05
35 BS (me)
52 WH
17 DS
15 DD
14 DDs twins
Currently in R.
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference" The Serenity Prayer
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I am no expert, but I would not respond at all. He hasn't done anything yet but spend a few bucks (which he claims he doesn't have).
Pretend like the card said "You are loved, for your credit rating, because I need a re-fi"
I am wishing the best for you, but until he does something, I would stay dark.
Me-41 BS (FWS) DH-41 WS (FBS) 2DD's- 10 and 12 Married 15 years Separated for 2 years after my A Reconciled for 1 year before his A D-day for his A 8/23/05 WH moved out 9/16/05 Divorce final 1/23/07 Affair ended or month or so later My Story
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