Hi, this is my first post so forgive me if i go on a bit.
up untill last July I thought i had 'the perfect marriage'
then one morning my husband'm' told me he was unhappy and that he thought it was me causing it!(up untill this point he was a lovely man)well he started acting oddly and to cut along story short I discoverd he was having an affair 5 weeks later,ther were tears and please forgive me(from him).I found her phone number and gave her what for(she was actualy just 3 months away from her oun wedding day)
He told me it was over and I said that i would give him 1 more chance,he had allready looked at renting some where else to live(there love nest)so we decided it would be best for him to move out for a short time,to give me a little space.He still came round every weekend and two week nights(to look after the kids while i went to work)
in november he asked if he could move back in and I said yes.THe week before he was due back he pulled away from me again,all physical contact stoped and he complained that 'something'was missing.
Well he came back and we have tryed as best as we can to make it work,but there has been no emotional or physical surport from him,iv done everything i can to make this work and last sunday i couldnt take any more and asked him to leave.
He didn't try and change my mind,he packed his stuff and left.HE says that he loves me and that more than any thing he wants us to be a family,but he cant give me any thing as its not there to give.Last night we talked on the phone and 10 mins after we had finished i phoned him back and he didn't answer(he only has a mobile)so i tryed again 10 mins later and again no answer.I gave him anougher 10 mins and called again and this time he had turned of the phone!
This is exactly what he used to do when he was out with her.
Iv now got images of the two of them together in my head.
He phoned this morning and said he was feeling down so he turned of the phone.Of cause I dont believe him,I think he is with her again(he denies this)I dont know what to do
I wish i didn't love him so much and I wish it didn't hurt so bad.We have to young children and I cant bare the thought of them growing up with out him being here.I guess i want a magic wand to make all the bad stuff go away.

Welcome to marriagebuilders. Read all about Plan A. That is the starting point.

Did the other woman get married?

Yes she did.

Then you need to expose this to her husband.

I was told by my husband that her husband had found out when I phoned her (about 40 times) and left messages on there phone.Problem is I dont know if its true.

Well, you can't expect them to tell the truth. I would try to contact him.

My WH and OW said the same thing - that her husband knew. He didn't.