Last night I posted a question for the first time concerning some fears I am having during the first few weeks of recovery. I was so excited about being able to talk to people who have been through this! I went home and told my husband who I guess is now considered a FWS and he said he would be interested in this website and talking with FWS's who could shed some light on his situation. Which forum and what questions should he ask to get the greatest response. I'm really excited he is interested in taking an active role in overcoming this affair and us rebuilding our marriage. If anyone can offer advice that would be great.

Kand1ce

Kand1ce, that is very good news.

I am an FWW and don't feel I can contribute a lot to FWHs. They have a whole different set of things they seem to be dealing with.

Lostone, who is JustEmpty's husband has just joined the forum on General Questions and I'm sure he wouldn't mind your H joining his thread.

In fact, I'm sure he'd welcome it. He's been looking for men in his situation to talk to.

K,
My FWH is just starting out on here too. He may be a little further along, or maybe not. I am sure that they will have some things in common. There are not a whole lot of FWH, but quite a few wonderful and helpful FWWs. However, there are many BSs here that will do wonders for him too.
My FWH is lostone2006. Have him check his thread out. Also have him start first with the basics. Learning the principles first. Then the abreviations on Just found out, and the guides to FWS's on both just found out and general. It will give him a good start.
My FWH has been on for just 2 weeks I think, but it is amazing the changes already. Your FWH is probably still withdrawing and there is help on threads for that too.
I would just tell him to jump in, lurk first if that makes him more comfortable, and then post questions, story or whatever.

Word of advice to you and him. Stay off of each others threads if at all possible. I have not read my FWHs and he has not read mine. The hurt is still too raw for both of us at this point, and could start a war...lol
That is between him and you though. We both agreed, I am dying to read his, not post but read, but he would rather I not for now, so I respect that. He needs to feel comfortable to express as much as possible here, and knowing I may lurk onto his thread, would make him not say his true feelings to get the help he needs.
It is a huge step for the FWS to come here. It tells alot about their wanting to work on the M in most cases. It is the best thing me and my H have ever done.

Good luck.
JE

LOL, JE, we must have been posting at the same time.

LOL Jen.
Posted a thanks on idijits for you..lol

K,
Is your FWH jason??

Bump for Kand1ce and her H

JE,

You did not hear it from me, perhaps a little birdy told you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />, but if you were to read your H's thread you would be impressed and he has nothing but good things to say about you.

So I hope this eases your curiosity a bit. Now if you need compliments, well... we can accomodate you just fine. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Kand1ce, do have your H post. He will here it as it is, but just remind him that the goal here is to build and rebuild marriages to something better than they ever were. So even the criticism he may hear is offered in the spirit that he will come out the other end a much happier man, and a better H. I might as well say, that the same holds for you.

The proverbial 2x4 is used around here in BS, FWS, and WS alike, but the goal is always the same, to help everyone.

Hope he does post.

God Bless,

JL

I just wanted to thank everybody for their responses. My husband has begun posting, his name is Jas0n. We have agreed not to view each others threads but I see he has already received several responses so thank you to everybody. He and I could both use a lot of encouragement right now. Looking forward to being a part of this community, everyone is AWESOME and working so hard!! THANK YOU. Will be looking in again soon.