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my brother was seen w/another woman and has had suspicious behavior, going out at nite, coming home early am and he was seen w/another woman at a bar, but he says they aren't having an affair......ok so how do you know for sure... i am sitting w/hysterical sister in law imagine me dealing w/this all over again


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If you've been registered here for almost a year and a half, you know the signs.

We can't tell better with 30 words of description.

What does "suspicious behavior" mean?

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Give your SIL your books or take her to the library or book store.

Surviving an affair - Dr W. Harley
His Needs/Her Needs - Dr W. Harley
Love must be tough - Dr James Dobson

Encourage her to call Steve @ MB. Give her the EN questionnaire.

Help her secure her finances and setup a plan A.
Help her create her immediate support group (don't let it be only you).
Get help for the children also.

She is fortunate to have you to help her.

Teach her reverse babble, when she is ready.

Tell her to pray for a clear mind, calm heart and lots of patiencce.

Prepare her to expose.

Then go to the WS and tell him if he was your brother you'd beat some sense into him. Remember he is a WS, possibly NOT your brother anymore. Let him know as a WS he is not mentally or emotionally ready to understand or see how much pain he is causing. That his selfish side will hurt everyone including himself. Let him know you are still his sister and when your real bro' wants to talk, you w/b there for him to 'listen' but not support an A.

My SIL was a WS, still w/a WS mentality. She is such a moron, her little 8 year old has been hospitalized with a collasped lung....doctors attribute it to a weak immune system causing her to get pnuemonia (sp??) and stress from her mother's A. Sad but true. I hate my SIL for what she has been doing for what is now a few years.

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orchid, thanks so very much for taking the time to post, my brain has plugged up the flooding of emotions raiding all rational thinking... now the work begins. again thank you.. and can you clarify what you mean by setting up her finances? they share a debit card and she does the finances. no credit card bills, no cell phones, however my dad sliped him $ in the past that he has access to.

also, what is reverse babble?

again your reminders helped my facilitate and helped me get away from emotional and i appreciate your words more than you will ever know...

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