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Does talking to the OP help or hinder?
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As you may have seen in my prior thread, my WW is having an EA with my cousin. I have exposed it to his parents, his GF (now XGF) and her parents. At this point, do you think that continuing to tell him about the destruction he is doing to everyone involved will help my efforts in destroying the A, or will it contribute to their resolve to continue it?
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Re: Does talking to the OP help or hinder?
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Since this guy is your cousin....I think that you should send him a picture of his little cousin....your child....and let him know that he's not just rocking YOUR world but the world of innocent child. Don't "let up" on him. Continue to ask your family to help him do the right thing. Be calm and civil, but steadfast in your request for them to end contact and rebuild their lives in an ethical way.
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ditto starfish

Conventional wisdom seems to be that contacting the OP should be done once - to make sure the OP knows the WS is married, has children, is not seeking a divorce, is not separated, is not dead, is not in prison, is not a axe murderer, etc., etc., etc. In other words, to counter the likely lies the WS has told the OP about the BS.

In your case, however, since OP is a family member the conventional wisdom doesn't apply, IMHO. Your cousin KNOWS your sitch and, as star*fish suggests, you ought to exploit this to attempt to appeal to whatever integrity the cockroach may have left.

WAT

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