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I am too freaked out.
Can't believe it.
But the guy is serious.
I like him...I mean I do...but love? I have only gone out for second time this weekend. Guy says I am what he wants and that love can do the rest...
I am too scared...
I almost want to cancel the date this weekend just b/c of what he asked me today...
TO MARRY ME BEFORE MAY.
me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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WoW! I just checked out the post.
I'd be freaked out to. majorally. Like panic attack freaked out. And flattered a little. But definitley freaked.
Does he know that you couldn't move around with him--he's in the service, right? Your D agreement probably has a residency restriction, and your DS, I'm sure he needs to see his dad. He's running for office--is it where you live? Does he expect you to up an move?
Of course you aren't gonna marry the man by May. You're right. You KNOW what it takes to build a strong M now. I think with all the other prospective Mr. Peaches out there for you, you have plenty of time.
How's the cute resident doing BTW?
As for the date, nothing like putting pressure on you, huh? I'd probably cancel, because I know I'd be too incredibly nervous.
BW-me, 29
XH, 29
3 sons-now 6,4,2
Divorce final--Sept. 27, 2006.
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Eek! I'd be freaked too! After just one day!
Man... yeah, it's flattering but FAST. You need to give yourself time. Plenty of time.
"No power in the 'verse can stop me."
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Why the rush? Is this the same one we talked about?
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Orchid...different dude. already went on one date with him last year. went well...but he went off to iraq and he's also a pilot in real job.
intexas...cute resident is doing well..our schedules don't mesh so cutely that's all. still talking to him but our arranging dates is a scheduling disaster right now...maybe when he gets a normal life...and i do too? which might be never
rivertam...went out last year and he and i talked for a few weeks after he went back to iraq...i just don't get the rush...before may? i don't know ANY MAN i'd consider marrying within 2 mos that is alive.
me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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forgot to add...just got back from doc...got flu...yee ha!
me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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I know of a military guy that got married over the weekend because if he waited until June for the wedding (as originally planned) his upcoming assignment would be for a long long time, far far away.
That's what came to mind when you said military/hurry to get married.
Juat a thought.
Good Luck.
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i've heard of it too...
NOT GONNA DO IT.
nope.
It's taken me two years to learn how to be single...and I'm not doing it that wonderfully yet as year one was about surviving on less money...and year two was beginning to think that I could be grieving? and now...just trying to start all over again..after a few false starts when I thought i was in complete divorce recovery.
it's scary to think this guy would want me to marry him...that quicky. he protects our country and he should want to protect his heart also. he is a good guy. and who knows? it could happen? but i've only been on ONE DATE with him...and I don't love him for sure...who could love somebody after one date? unless you're a psycho imho..love for me would take time...and trust...and only guys i've fallen for, i seem to have a "past" kinda thing with them..either shared profession, knew them in college, etc. so there was established trust before. not so with this guy. it's gonna take me really getting to know him.
but the truth is this...I want to date around..until I meet the one...and that will be something I'll know over again time.
i have a date with xbf (the physician asst) this weekend...
am now a believer in Justinexplorer's theory:
THE THEORY OF DOING NOTHING...in dating.
which could also be translated to mean...in dating, when you least expect it and are NOT so pushing for dates or trying at all, they just happen.
In my whole life, this has been the case. when I totally least expected it, my few serious relationships have happened.
I am gonna take a nap. this flu stuff sux.
me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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Hey, wasn't it you that I talked with who had a great thing going w/____________? Wassssup?!??!?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
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Awesome. I bet your ex would be well and truly freaked out. It's early days Peachy but give the man time. He's obviously besotted with you. TT
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