Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum

This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at mbrestored@gmail.com
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 3
V
Junior Member
Junior Member
V Offline
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 3
Don't know if anyone still remembers me here (SunnyD, LynnG, and some other oldies?) but this most recent change is the culmination of many years of documenting, arguing, coaxing.... all the sweat and tears has finally paid off and OC will begin a new (stable) journey as a permanent part of our recovering family!

The straw that broke the camel's back? OC brought a small shooter of rum (opened, but mostly full) to kindergarten class yesterday that she picked up at OW's house. This, on top of countless tardies and unexcused absences while in OW's care, was the final blow for OC's elementary school. We finally have the full support and cooperation of OC's teacher and principal.

We have, for years, argued with OW about the quality of care OC receives while with her mother - all the while fighting with the court system to retain appropriate visitation and provide fair figure for child support. We were told every step of the way (by lawyers, doctors, pediatric psychologists) that we would never gain custody unless we could prove OW was unfit and even then our chances were slim to none. We have been biding our time waiting for OW to screw up in a big way, but even I was shocked when OC showed up to school with liquor. The poor girl was terrified, she didn't understand why she was in trouble or what was so bad about the "cute bottle with a pirate ship". She was hysterical when we picked her up from school.

OW finally realizes that we will provide a safer, more stable life for OC and understands that with all of the mistakes she's made, all the times she put her needs ahead of OC's and all of the documentation we have to support this, no court in the state would leave OC in her care.

On Monday, we will implement the new schedule (with us Mon-Fri, with OW every weekend) and close the book on what has been the most challenging, emotionally draining, and stressful situation our marriage has ever faced. OW is signing the paperwork this Sunday and it will be filed first thing Monday morning. OC will be safe, fed, bathed, and nurtured everyday from this day forward along with her siblings in our home. A true family, at last!

AVNL
(aka aVictimNoLonger)
Dday Jan. 1st 2000
OC born Aug. 31st 2000, 5 yrs
Mine: Son 10 yrs
Ours: Daughter 5 yrs, Son 4 yrs
Married September 24, 1999

No one thought we would make it together....we sure showed them! Seven years together and I've never been happier in my marriage as I am right this moment!

Last edited by victimnolonger; 02/22/06 09:00 PM.
Joined: Jun 2004
Posts: 275
A
Member
Member
A Offline
Joined: Jun 2004
Posts: 275
congratulations <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


married 13yrs-02/02/93
A(about2-3wks) ofSept. 03
almost 3yrs. of sucessful recovery, and getting strongger everyday
d-6/93
s-2/93
ss(oc)-6/04
God and True Love Rule
Joined: Mar 1999
Posts: 2,430
J
Member
Member
J Offline
Joined: Mar 1999
Posts: 2,430
Congradulations!! That's awesome. I hope everything goes better from now on.


Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person. -Mother Teresa
Joined: Mar 1999
Posts: 2,121
N
Member
Member
N Offline
Joined: Mar 1999
Posts: 2,121
Congratulations VNL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

That's wonderful!!

Joined: Jun 2004
Posts: 8,344
D
Member
Member
D Offline
Joined: Jun 2004
Posts: 8,344
CONGRATULATIONS!

We just filed for custody (finally). OW should get served tomorrow (gulp).


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

My Story

Recovered!

Link Copied to Clipboard
Forum Search
Who's Online Now
0 members (), 1,701 guests, and 92 robots.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Newest Members
litchming, scrushe, Carolina Wilson, Lokire, vivian alva
72,031 Registered Users
Latest Posts
Three Times A Charm
by Vallation - 07/24/25 11:54 PM
How important is it to get the whole story?
by still seeking - 07/24/25 01:29 AM
Annulment reconsideration help
by abrrba - 07/21/25 03:05 PM
Help: I Don't Like Being Around My Wife
by abrrba - 07/21/25 03:01 PM
Following Ex-Wifes Nursing Schedule?
by Roger Beach - 07/16/25 04:21 AM
My wife wants a separation
by Roger Beach - 07/16/25 04:20 AM
Forum Statistics
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,524
Members72,031
Most Online6,102
Jul 3rd, 2025
Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
Copyright © 2025, Marriage Builders, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Site Navigation
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 8.0.0