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I am finding it very tough going - WH writes these letters - variation on the one below.............
I hope you are well. I think about you and I miss you. I continue to respect your decision not to communicate with me but I still don't like it. I would like to be able to talk to you and hope that you might reconsider.
In the meantime, I would like to call in at Ryber House to collect any post for me. I would like to call in this Wednesday at about 12.30: if that's not convenient, please let me know.
I hope that you and the cats are OK and managing the house and garden. If you need any help with anything, please let me know. I hope also that your'e getting some support and that your work goes well.
Please look after yourself and the pussycats and find a way to contact me if you need anything - I hope you'll feel able to communicate with me again
Yours
Ow is head of HR in his department - exposed to all - byt they are doing nothing about it as they are so seniour I guess. Always feel absolutely wretched when I receive letter but holding on
Me (BS) 46 - moved in December 2004 to be with WH - no real support network to call on
WH 44 - moved to new job in June 2004 - 200 miles from home
OW 43 - Head of HR in same workplace - but met soulmate so it does not matter about work issues
D Day May 2005 - Plan A (with OWH in Plan A too)until December 2005. Plan B - did OK until lapse at end of Oct 2006. WH and I met in 1983, friends until 1989 when started our relationship - moved in together in 1992, and married in 2001.
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Did you send a Plan B letter earlier?
If so, I suggest you send him a very brief note attached to a copy of the original Plan B letter stating that he is not to attempt to contact you again unless he agrees with the conditions for further contact that you established.
Do you have a legal separation?
Please describe the company he and OW work in. Is it in the US?
edit: I've read your prior posts. Children? How old are you and H? Are you are still reluctant about exposing over their heads in the workplace?
Last edited by worthatry; 02/23/06 08:45 AM.
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Plan B Says ABSOLUTELY NO COMMUNICATION either directly or indirectly!
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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He says he hopes you are recieving some support... if you can hit him in the wallet, that will start to make the affair sting. Nothing like giving away money for nothing to wake up a dream.
-hang in there
9 years now ... and some days you still say grrr!
Hang in there.
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