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Just wondering.
I asked why the cell phone bill never arrives home. He said it is all online and saves $2/month that way.
Ok, that I understand and it makes sense.
If I demand to see a print out of the bill, can it be edited online??
It is his cell phone. He will not get me a cell phone linked to his, even though it is only another $10/month (You would think for safety and emergency reasons, it would be a no brainer). Why pay money for my own account when it makes more sense to add a line to his?
I dont know his online password to the phone company.
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I am not sure, but I would have fun trying to see if I could bust him lying about it. I would think that he would have to transfer the image of the bill into a program that could edit. This is possible, BUT, the printed version would probably not show the URL of the web page (unless he had enough sense to cut and paste that too)

I would ask him for the print out - you should be able to tell if it has been altered.


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Emma,
No clue about your story, or why you are here...

As for the bill.
If he just hits print from a web browser, not much editing is possible that way. If it's a downloaded PDF file, those are generally not editable (unless you have acrobat editor versions).

If it is a Word or Excel document, then he can change things. The real question should be, "WHY ARE YOU SUSPICIOUS?"


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You should ask for (demand?) the password. Radical Honesty is required here.

Why would he not give you the pw, anyway? Any talk of privacy = secrecy in this instance.

You having transparent access to the cell phone account makes perfect sense to anyone except a WS.

BTW, many BS on MB have gotten access to cell accounts by calling the company and telling them who they are and that they want to pay the bill.


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Can a spouse "Edit" an online cell phone bill b4 printing it?

Yes, but he/she would have to be pretty good computer skills to do it. The average person wouldn't know how.

BUT: I think you are right to be suspicious.


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Can't you just ask him to log in for you and view it on-line? That way there's little chance of modifying the record.

BTW -- modifying a hard copy wouldn't be too hard.

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I agree.
And he should give you the password, because if he doesnt then he is hiding something. And you know what they say - people only hide stuff, because they have something to hide.


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Thank you for the responses so far.
I have gut instincts. That is my reasoning...to the person who asked WHY I was suspicious. I feel that is enough reasoning...especially since he wont get me a line for emergency purposes.
And yes, he is a computer engineer by trade....so, I am guessing he could alter it rather easily.
Thanks for the heads up on what to look for.
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If he is a computer engineer, then you can't trust anything he might get or you might see from the computer. There are ways to "spoof" anything.

I would suggest handing him $50 and saying, "I just paid for 2 years of hard copies from the phone company."

Of course, this is all tire spinning, red herrings, smoke and mirrors. Obviously, he has calls on his phone bill he doesn't want you to see.


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I agree with Jimmy Mac. I am not a computer engineer, just a mechanical engineer who likes to play these darn things.

I can edit an acrobat document to make the print copy say something it does not (at least using V5.0, I think that I now have 7.0 and I have not tried it. However, I cannot remove it as it would leave a big blank line. Also, this edit can be removed or checked out if I had the edited file.

However, my cellphone company offers file formats like "csv" that can have anything done to them before you see it. If it is an HTML file, that is easy to play with. Heck, I can edit it with MS Word, print it, and you would not know the difference.

Demand a printed copy from the phone company. Better yet, have your H add you to his account and then you get them from the phone company yourself. Removes all possiblities of lying....

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