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Well,
It didn't take her long to make up her mind. I just received a letter from my attorney the she fully intends to proceed with the divorce. I asked her about it when she came home a little bit ago and she said that she cannot tolerate my snooping anymore. I didn't argue, just told her if that's what she thinks she wants, than so be it. I have a place reserved in my mind of being a single Dad with my kids. I also told her it's a shame, she wouldn't give things a chance.
She refuses to accept any responsibility for her actions and this is why she will proceed with the D. It absolves her and lets her carry on her haphazard life. Again, I told her it's her life and if she wants to go through it refusing to accept responsibility for her actions, it's her choice.
I am dissapointed
I am sad
I feel lonely
I really thought things would work out and so did a few other folks.
I'm done here.......
BS
There is a clock on the wall ticking. I don't know where it is or what time it is but she's waiting for something. Actually, I think I found the clock. I can't see it clearly enough to read it though....
BH (Me) 46
WW 46
Married 15 years
A began - 6/05
DDay - 7/30/05
Exposure - 8/1/05
D papers served 8/10/05
A continues....
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Don't say you're done until you are actually divorced. Lots of things can happen between now and the divorce.
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Ditto what believer said! It aint over until you say so. Even when things look bleak. We have seen many turn around here, even after divorce. But it will be up to YOU, not her, if your marriage makes it. If you want it to end, and no one would blame you, then it will end. Otherwise, make her fight tooth and nail to get out.
In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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I agree...the "fat lady" had herself one heck of a party with my marriage....my mantra is :
Take care of yourself and everything else falls into place...
Personally I fought against D for so long that when finally pushed I just made it a business deal....gave up NOTHING that I was not due....you do the same...
good luck...
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Don't give up. My FWW put a down payment on her apartment and changed her mind before the move. With the divorce filing, the lawyers, splitting of assets, etc. reality begins to sneak through the fog, forcing them to see what they leaving and what they are gaining. It is then, you have a chance to become more equal.
TooSoon
Married 20 yrs at time of affair
DD: 1/16/04
NC: Since 4/14/04
FWW: Workplace EA for 8+ months.
MC: For Awhile
Recovery Begins When All Contact Ends.
Progress: Doing very well.
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It ain't over till the Judge signs the final Decree. A lot can happend in between.
This isn't over unless YOU give up!
Stay Strong!
WTF
*** Warning *** Make sure brain is engaged before shifting mouth out of Neutral.
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Barking,
I am in the same spot as you. WH has filed and is determined as well.
But I will tell you like eveyone has told me it ain't over until YOU say it is.
Even if the D happens things can still change. its only a piece of paper. There have been many who have D'd and still recovered. Look at Send me on my way his sitch is a shining example things can change and get better.
I know it hurts and as in my case there is nothing I can do to stop it but I still am keeping the hope alive for now.
Keeping you in my prayers.
Hurting
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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