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Can you please tell me what changed your mind and made you reconsile?
My WW left about 5 months ago. I have my good days and my bad. They seem to be getting better.
She has no interest whatsoever in trying to make this work. She was seeing OM (also married) but this seems to have half cooled off because he went back to his wife.
What opened your eyes and made you think you made a mistake?
No matter what I do, no matter what I say, or how I act, I get nothing in return. She won;t give just a little. She refuses to do anything with me, she only calls me concerning the child, and refuses to talk to me about anything going on in her life.
She said its over and she isn't interested in working it out. She hasn't moved from this position since she left. She doesn;t even seem like she is interested in me anymore. She acts like I am a tolerated evil because of the child.
Am I just hanging on too something that isn't there?
She isn't pushing for a legeal seperation and she still has alot of things in the house. She has bought alot of things for her new apt. though.
Nothing in the apt. evens shows our marriage. No pics, no gifts I gave her, no nothing.
Am I just spinning wheels here or should I keep going?
What changed your mind ?
Rowing upstream, against the current ....
Because I love her and she is WORTH IT !!
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stilllovingher,
I m also going through the same situation as you, where WW dont want to even see my face anymore. and its been apox 3 moths now. but as we all know after the A, its the fog state, that WS go through and cannot see the reality, i.e. what good for the family and for relationship. you have to be paitient and keep yourself moving in a way thats good for you as well as for your relationship in future.
I m looking forward to see the answers of your question from WSs.
KFH
me BS 33
WW 33
3 kids (DS5, DS3, DD1)
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stillloving-
I understand the need to hear from other WS's, but I have a couple questions for you.
How long have you been married?
You have one child? Boy or girl?
Is the child living with her or you?
When was D-Day (discovery day)?
Are you in Plan A?
The OM is married???
Have you exposed? Have you exposed to OM's wife?
Are you SURE that she's no longer in contact with OM?? (Sounds like she is, whether she's gone back to his W or not)
Answer these questions for us so we can better understand your situation.
God Bless,
-Caren
P.S. KFH, you should start your own thread, but the same questions apply to you.
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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stillloving-
I understand the need to hear from other WS's, but I have a couple questions for you.
How long have you been married? 10 years
You have one child? Boy or girl? one -- A boy
Is the child living with her or you? right now he goes back and forth. Its working well for both of us. She isn't playing any games when it comes to him. In fact, she is very good about letting me see him.
When was D-Day (discovery day)? Actually, I had thought something was going on for a while. She was already moved out when I discovered she was seeing him. No proof that she was seeing him prior to moving out.
Are you in Plan A? Yes, not no real plan on paper
The OM is married??? Yes, and he went back to her in Jan.
Have you exposed? Have you exposed to OM's wife?
No I haven't done any of it.
Are you SURE that she's no longer in contact with OM?? (Sounds like she is, whether she's gone back to his W or not) No, I am not sure, but I do know he went back. I don;t know if anything is still going on between them still.
Answer these questions for us so we can better understand your situation.
God Bless,
-Caren
P.S. KFH, you should start your own thread, but the same questions apply to you. Hope this helps... And thank you for the replies. My heart really hurts sometimes...... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
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Because I love her and she is WORTH IT !!
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Anyone ????
I am just so heartbroken right now ....
What I would give for just one more chance......
How do I show her I am serious about changing this time ??
Rowing upstream, against the current ....
Because I love her and she is WORTH IT !!
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