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I am glad he is open to reading it. I don't know what to tell you about your Anniv. - that is tough. You have to do what you feel is best.

Would you mind emailing me that article? [email]michelle0753@yahoo.com.[/email] Thanks!

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Thankful, I will send it to you.

Soon, I know it's tough, especially with the children. They always say that we did something to drive them away. Don't believe it for one second. You are the one trying to save your family.


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Well, Cis, Tire, Thankful, twoblue...hope yall have a good evening. I am having bad feelings about this evening. One of those days when I don't want to go home. It's not even a home to me anymore. Just a house.

BTW, should I ask my H if he read the article? Or just ignore it?

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It does go from a home to a house pretty quickly. I hate that feeling. I would ask him if he read it.

I just saw my STBX in the hall at work. It makes me nervous and shaky when I see her. How long will this last? I don't know how much longer I can take this.

Hope everyone has a good evening.


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Soon, I guess I'd ask him what he thought of the article. I'm sorry you aren't feeling good about tonight. Stay strong! You know you are. ((HUGS))

Tired, I wish you could get another job. I cannot even begin to imagine that. I'm so sorry. Sending as much strength as possible your way!

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Hey there...hope you all are staying strong. It's strange, but H and I had a nice visit last night. He helped me move some furniture into my apartment. Then we went out to dinner, and he stayed over! He told me he loved me, said I was beautiful, that he missed me...blah blah blah...and he is divorcing me! Not sure what to think. I know I can't read into his words anything other than he loves me, but can never forgive me and doesn't want to be married to me...

Stay busy! There is so much to do and learn and see etc. Go out and get it!


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Cis: I swear your H and mine are in this plot together. My H did the same thing to me (again) Sat. night. SF, told me I was beautiful, he loved me more than anything in the world. What are they doing...just trying to make themselves feel better? All of this, but he doesn't want to be my H. do they think that saying this stuff is going to make it easier for us or them?

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Soon - you're probably right. Humans try to take the path of least resistance. I'm starting to understand that my H was probably very unhappy with me, but didn't know how to get out of the marriage. So now that he has a good reason he can frame the divorce in a way that makes him more comfortable. I've got to be ok with it, since there is nothing I can do to change things, and I've tried everything!
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Has he told you that he was unhappy with you BEFORE the shi*t hit the fan? You are wrong, we don't have to be OK with anything. We just have to learn to accept that this is the way it is going to be. I'm really having a tough time with this. Which is expected I guess, I'm just going to have to learn and grow from this mistake. And you will too.

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