This may fit more in the recovery board, but this is where I posted when my life was upside down, so I'll keep it where I got my help.
It's been a good while since I've posted anything, and my FWW and I are firmly seated in recovery, but today she's having to testify at the divorce hearing of the OM & his W.
Long story, but the 4 of us were "best friends" at one time, and after the A was in the open, OM would never deal straight with his W about the truth of the last few years of their M. He told her his watered down version of things...just enough to acknowledge what was in the open, but not enough to really give her the story. For that reason, she turned to my W to get the facts about the A (weird I know, but.....).
Again, long story, but my W never fully went off the deep end and understood that she really had no right to refuse her the information, and even before the A truly ended, she was filling in the blanks for her former friend. After the A ended and my W was fully back in our R, I told her that if she were to continue to have any type of friendship with OMW that she was going to have to tell her everything and make sure that there were no blanks. I couldn't have them basing any kind of friendship on half truth or lies, so my W sat down and answered all of her Q's one night and then became the really only source of information that OMW had.
Time passed (been about 2 years now) and the D is almost final. OMW asked my W to give a statment last year just so it would be on record for her case. We discussed it and I left the decision up to her and she decided that if she didn't do it, the info would stay buried (plus the OM was doing his best to make the D as nasty as possible), so she gave the statment...well of course that turned into the need for her to testify in the final hearing, so here we are.
I'm not concerned about anything but my W's emotions and her having to revisit things that she's been working so hard to put behind her for 2 years. I have no worries about her seeing OM (he lives 2 miles from us, so that happens from time to time) since the A ended with OM showing his true colors and abruptly bursting the fantasy bubble (thank God), I just feel for my W that she has to publicly give an account of what happened.
I'd just like anyone that has a second to ask that God give her the strength to say what she needs to say, be all business and do what she has to do so she can leave.
I wish I could be there with her, but I'm at home with our D (one great result of our new R...our first child) and couldn't work it out.
Anyway, I know she'll be fine and things will work out, but you can never have too many folks backing you up, right? She's been through the ringer with this and I just want things to finally be over. This hearing has been hanging over her head for months (been delayed and delayed some more) and we're just wanting it to be over.
That and we're praying that OM won't make an a** of himself....I hate that their situation is ending like this...especilaly with him still living in our area. Don't like the though of things not going his way in the D and him being pissed off at the world and up the street.
Thanks for any thought or prayer that is sent our way today.
