I am beginning to think I want a divorce! My wife has been such a liar and deciever for so long I don't know if she can change. We decided Friday that a divorce would be the best route to go and then Sunday she says that she still wants to MC and that we need to wait a while on filing papers. Please help I am lost.<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

I'm in about the same boat, I'm having Lawyer fire up the printing press. All should be prepped by next Wed.

I am linking your 2 threads.....it will help those of us who need a recap of your sitch:

1st thread

Finish reading SAA and His Needs/Her Needs.....your W is babbling. The scary piece is she is making plans to escapte and could ruin you and your family..... so she is still very warped in favor of the A.

She is creating a pattern of stalking men. 1 conquest will energize her for another....woman are wired this weird way. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

So go take that $$ and the rest of your family's finances and remove her from that responsbility. I know of WS' who diliberately spend $$ to hurt their BS (my SIL is a prime example and BIL let's her - very sad indeed).

Make sure she contributes from her salary to the family. IF she choose to save from her earnings, let her but AFTER she pays for her stay. No freebies...that enables the A. Expect her to get angry but let her know, her untrusting acts have made this a necessary. If she says she isn't doing it anymore then tell her until your trust returns, she should understand....if she doesn't tell her that's a big sign she is up to no good and the trust factor has taken a few steps backward.

If you do the above, it w/b a reverse babble lesson. You will have learned NOT to let her manipulate you with her hurtful and angry words.

L.