My husband and I are going through a really rough time. We are working hard on working it out, but he has alot of anger towards me.

In the past, he has really gotten upset over the frequency of our sex life. The past couple of monthes, I have really put the effort toward making the first move. He says he really enjoys things now.

Last night, when I went to make an advance, he told me that he has no sex drive. That once we start, he is good, but he no longer comes to bet wanting sex. He is upset that our sex life is no longer spontaneous. He wants to want to have sex. He doesn't like me starting when he is not "ready".

We ended up having sex and he said he enjoyed and always does, he just misses wanting it. He told me that he does love me. We are going through a really rough time. We are in counseling and he says he wants it to work. He has the most to loose in his mind.

Can anyone help with any suggestions? Is this because of the anger, just normal-he is 34 and we have been married 16 years/ He is having a very stressful time at work and money is tight for the first time in a long time.

I have gotten in the habit of asking if we could fool around and he says that really bothers him, but I am not sure how many times I could take flat out rejection.

Please help!