Hello everyone,

I have been posting in the General QuestionsII and have learned a great deal about me...

What I have to sahre here and discuss is what I have found over the weekend.

My W has been emotional withdrawn and basically non responsive to any attempst for meeting her ENs. For around 6 months. We have have NO SF for at least that long.

I found a new bank account last week and it had a substantial amount of cash in it. I have said nothing. After that she changed all her passwords to her emails and other accounts. (A keylogger is a wonderful tool)

After that happened I found that her new password was "mybilly". Now her boss is names Billy and one of her clients is Bill. She is ,I know, enamored with Billy. He is a very cocky and shrewed operator. He too is married and has kids. An older man that is her mentor and has a gret deal of power over her career at this time. He could make or break her.

Al that being said isnt enough to get the proof. But she has been checking her voicemail at night late and then first thing in the morning before hte sun comes up. No business calls are going to come in at those hours. I checked after she left for a late run to the store one night and after she got back she had called Billy while she was out at around 10pm.

There is a new acoount of hidden money, new passwords saying'mybilly' and late night calls from both to each other. I have yet to hear an message from him that is out of the way. But there is also a call from one of our dear friends to confess to me that in October my W told her of someone that was giving her everything that she needed emotionally but that it didnt seem to her that it had moved to physical yet. This friend seems to think it has and that it is Billy.

I just want my wife back... I love her so much and I need her back. I have been working a Plan A but have not confronted her at all on any of this.

One day I feel she is gone and the next she seems to be making plans to stay. I am in a wirlwind of emothion (as you can tell by the typing) andit just hurts....

Please lend an ear and let me know what you all think....

Sounds to me like it's time for Spying 101 (do you have a voice-activated digital recorder?) followed by Exposure 101 (starting with the boss's family, if he indeed turns out to be the OM).

recorder is the next step for me... GPS on her car is as well.

You're on the right track. Get your evidence. DON'T say how you got it.

Steel yourself for what you might find.

Post back and let us know how you're doing.