My H told me this morning that he is changing jobs. Has probably known this for about a week or two. Has been bringing home boxes from his office. When I asked if he was cleaning up he said Yeah something like that. I know that he as the new HR person about insurance for family with a spouse and without a spouse. Which hurt a little.

When I talked to him this morning I was very upbeat. The only thing I asked was if it was ok to have prexisting conditions with the new insurance. I ended up having to tell him that I am supposed to get all of my front teeth capped. I didn't want to tell him this until the preapproval came through. I explained why it wasn't cosmetic and told him I would show him when he got home.

I did not ask how much $$$ he was going to get from the new company. Although I know he hates his current job the company he is going to is owned by a man he worked for before. He actually sold his company to my H's current employer. So I am thrilled that he is going back to work for this man. He loves my H and will hopefully relieve his stress level which I think can help our R.

I just don't want to do any LB's tonight. I really just want him to know that I support any decision he makes in regards to this. I said that this morning. I also said if it makes you happy then I am thrilled for you.

Somethings I am nervous about is how he is going to get his money. Right now it is Direct Deposit to 2 accounts and I need it to stay that way. But don't want to come across as wanting all of his money. I know it is our money but you know our WS's.

Help me not say anything wrong Please. Thanks in advance for the advice

Hi, SP.

Well, it sounds like you're doing all the right things, by staying upbeat and positive. I can't think of anything you need to change, at the moment.

As far as your financial situation goes, maybe give it a little time to bring it up, after he settles in, and starts to relax a little. You might get a better response after the stress starts to lift.

Good luck! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Thanks Jennifer.

Thank god for American Idol tonight. That is our show to watch so the job didn't come up tonight. And since he has been working like a dog for a job he is quitting he went to bed early.

Well, there you go! It took care of itself. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Glad to hear it.

Hang in there, maybe once he begins the new job, he'll become easier to talk with. Ya' never know. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Take care...Jennifer