Ok, today there was a "meeting" between the boss, OM, and I. This was decided by the boss. Then I was asked to leave the room, went back to work and when OM walked by, which he really needn't do, there were other routes to take back to his office area his eyes were glazed, teary eyed like, and I was given this look, the look that said to me WHY? He shook his head no and walk on. I don't know what that meant or what is to come but the boss thought he would put an end to it here and now and he doesn't want to hear another word of romances in his domain. The man didn't seem mad at me yet stern enough to make his point known for "both" parties without signaling out the bad guy. I don't know, I really don't. OM was at the water cooler I must pass at lunchtime, looking at me I'm sure. felt his eyes on my back. The silence is worse than all the other moments combined. That's what happened, whether it sticks or not, yet to be seen. I do have an address and probably will be changing my phone numbers.

In the part of the meeting that you attended, were you comfortable with the discussion and was everything clearly spelled out and handled professionally?

I think your boss handled things well. Just remember you have responsibility to minimize or avoid contact. I suspect the first one that violates that rule will be terminated but I still think that your position is far better. Your company does not want a court case. They cost money.

It also sounds like OM got a wake-up call. If he persists after having been told that his job is at stake (and I am positive that is what he was told while you were out), then you have a stalker. He will be terminated and you will then have recourse to get a restraining order against him. It will never get that far. I am certain his bubble just burst and his party is over.

You also have the threat of exposure to his family. As people always say, the A is fantasy and you kept his safe. All that is gone now.

I think you made a great decision. Whatever path you take going forward, this was the best choice you could have made. I am so happy for you.

Good Job Smfry-

Just be strong! I'm proud of you!!!

God Bless,

-Caren

Excellent, smfry. If you feel his eyes on your back, turn around and glare at him. He'll get the message soon enough or you go back to your boss. Good on you, Lady. Have you told your husband? It'll mean a lot to him that you did this.

You Rock, Smfry!!!!!! I am so proud of you!!!! Girl, I knew you could do this.

What a huge step for you.

Ok, tell your husband. Is there a friend at work you can use as an accountablity partner? Someone who will sort of stand with you, have your back so to speak?

I'm proud of you. Do not let him intimidate you. Hold your head high.

Smfry,

Begin to document everything. If you get so much as a smirk, log it. It is harassment. This might also save your bacon if OM gets devious. Treat him as the devil incarnate. He cannot be trusted. Maybe I am just over cautious. Unfortunately you never know until it is too late.

Oh, and I am still proud of you!

Good going, smfry!

Way to go! You are tops in my book. That took courage and strength. You will get through all of this.

That took real guts! Your are very brave and I congratulate you for it.

Please take traicionado's advice about documentation. It could come in handy later on.

C-

Thanks for the ongoing support all. Today was absolutely no picnic. I called H at home he is still sick and thought this would be a good time to tell him what I did yesterday. I didn't feel too much like talking yesterday. Just wanted to get through the darn day. Well, it turned into him belittling me over the phone, by the time I hung up I felt so little. I head back to me desk in tears and yours truly cornered me, very "concerned" and wanted to know if I was all right. I quietly told him it is not his concern and just leave me alone. He did back away, but throughout the day our office gossiper tried to find out what my beef was. Finally she said "I know, you don't want to be with your H anymore you want to be with OM!" That sure gave me enough fuel to continue on the right path. How blind I was to the obvious, like no one noticed! What a fool, so now I 'm someone to talk about. Yes I have a friend that will have my back, thank God for her. Longhorn, I'm working on my killer glare, tried it out on someone else,lol. I think today, maybe there was genuine concern, we were having an EA and maybe he forgot himself for his feelings for me, I'll let it slide, he did back off and disappear. My Boss asked how I was doing today and if all was ok, prior to my breakdown so I think he is going to be on top of this.

Hang in there, Smfry. Keep coming here to post. Is youe husband feeling better yet?

Maybe telling him on the phone was not such a good idea. Maybe in person he would have been able to read your body language and see how genuine you were.

hang in there- keep up the fight

((((((((((((Smfry))))))))))))))

You're doing really well!! You did the right thing.

Your H is hurt, that's why you got the backlash today.

God Bless,

-Caren

Hey, smfry, practice that glare. As an Air Force senior NCO, I had it down so good, young airmen would whimper and run the other way when they saw me coming. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Don't forget to document. Your office gossiper (OG) is quite dangerous. Everyone may know exactly what she is but she can still cause you a lot of trouble.

It has been my experience that people in an office are like chickens. I am no expert on chickens but my mom had chickens at her school (special education) so I got to spend some time with them when I was sick as we had no daycare way back then so she took me to work. What I observed is that you can have 30 chickens in a small space and they pretty much leave each other alone. If one chicken gets accidentally pecked or cut on the fence or does anything to show even a drop of blood, the other 29 chickens will peck it mercilessly to death. Like sharks at a feeding frenzy. It is cruel to watch.

In other words, don't let OG ever draw blood.

I have to believe that in your supervisor's eyes, you have been fairly warned and may even have a letter in your HR file. If you ever watch referees at an NFL or NBA game, they don't always see the first foul and mistakenly call the second one. Better to just keep the distance so neither foul can occur.