Man I've been missing the party! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />
**CHEERS**
**Clink***
**Clink**
**Clienk*** <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
That last one got me...I think I've caught up.
Its funny how WS start falling apart when you don't buy the old tired lines! OW will see a new side to your WH! The side he hid from her and showed to you! Now she's got the FULL monty!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Jennifer and Confused.....

I really got caught up on the **CLINK***CHEERS**** last night!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Went to a 50th birthday party for a gal I worked with in the hospital for several years!!!!!

Hadn't had a drink in a long time - and hadn't had so many laughs in a long time, too!!! Yes, we nurses know how to party!

Yeah, OW is going to get the full Monty. Since I changed my name to UnMoved, I think I'll changed WH's name to F. Monty!!!! Good suggestion, Confused!

I hope WH and OW do get married. Then I can combine their initials to WHO....HOW....I'll figure something out.

They can be "moral and wonderful" together. And treat each other so very well. Good luck with THAT!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

***CHEERS******CLINK***** (What can I say, I'm in a party mood!)

Kathy

Well if this is their idea of "moral & wonderful", I think I'll start to rob banks!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

May Prince Charming & Cinderella live Happily Ever After in their little world of such "Wonderful Morality"!! And may the Wicked Witch and the Big Bad Wolf...oh wait, wasn't that Snow White, or was it the TWO Little Pigs? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Ok, maybe it's time to cut me off!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> ***CHEERS***CLINK***

Ahhhhh..........

PIGS!!!!! I still have a little pink glass pig with wings that hangs from my rear view mirror....."When pigs FLY".

I know the only one that's ever going to fly is the one on my mirror (well, it's suspended by a pink ribbon, so, it's probably not going to fly either!)

I have thought since WH sort of moved home this last time that I would prefer to be alone, a hermit, rather than be around him. He is so negative. Lucky OW!!!!

I had absolutely nothing to say to him. It was work just to make small talk with him.

And it amazes me how you can go from being in love with someone, then in such pain - but still in love - to the point where there are no feelings left for that person. It is surely blessed relief sent from God.

And all of WH's rantings and name calling at this point are only because I am no longer in his control. What a feeling of empowerment to finally be in control of myself and my life.

He's going to hate me because he can't manipulate me. (Although I really wish he wouldn't call our children and drag them into the middle.) I think he is trying to get them to see how in the right he is!

He is so self centered. I never realized how selfish and childish he really is. Looking back, I don't know how I missed seeing that in his character for so many years.

Hind sight is 20/20, but I'm into present sight, and future sight now.

"SOME WHERE OVER THE RAINBOW......." "I WILL SURVIVE" "I WILL NOT BE BROKEN"

These are some of my favorite songs to sing now.

Tomorrow I take the papers to the lawyer. I would like to talk to her, but $175.00 an hour! OUCH!!!!

It's kind of sad, really, that dollar per hour is what a marriage comes down to. I've forked out a lot on MC, and now lawyers.

Oh, well.

I WILL SURVIVE.

HAPPILY <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Kathy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Well, good luck, tomorrow! I'll be thinking of you, and saying a little prayer! Have another great day, tomorrow!

And let the PIGS fly! Far, far away!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Jennifer

Well, still having good days. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Yesterday, WH left me a couple more abusive voicemails.


Threatening to "kick me out on my a$$, and leave me nothing" "he doesn't care what happens to me" "No wonder he got rid of my a$$" "he's tired of the games I'm playing, and how I treating him like $hit"

I finally called him last night. Told him the only thing I've done to him was NOT talk to him. And that I would really appreciate his not calling our children and calling me names. That it puts them in the middle.....they either have to agree with him, or defend me.

Both DD and DS have told WH "What do you expect?".

I go to the lawyers office on Thursday to sign the papers. Then, LOOK OUT!!! DD says he is going to "flip a loop"! She said I can hide out at her place (since WH doesn't know where she lives) if I need to.

This is all so ridiculous. He still blames everything on me. When I talked to him last night he was obviously at OW's house (judging from the background noise, and a small dog barking, and a woman - very close by the phone saying "NO BARK! NO BARK!). When I asked him where he was, he said he was in a parking lot. Yeah, right, I'm THAT stupid.

He keeps trying to get me to make a deal. He will take everything that has no debt attached to it (and the rental property which makes money) and that I should have everything else (that money is owed on). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

I told him flat out that I will make no deals with him.

So, looking forward to Thursday!

And yet I am UnMoved.

Kathy

Hi, UnMoved!! Are you sure it wasn't the OW you heard barking in the background?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Well, I will be thinking of you on Thursday. You are being strong, and doing what you have to do. YOU did not create this situation, you are just reacting to what was put in front of you, against your will. Isn't that called, "Self Defense?" In this case, it is finanacial and emotional self defense. You didn't ask for this, but you won't back down to it either! I commend you for your courage. You are doing what so many others DREAD, which I'm sure you have, as well.

Well, you just keep taking one day at a time, (as you have been) and pretty soon, you will not only be "UnMoved", but "RE-Moved"!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Keep the strength, you are doing wonderful!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Jennifer

Morning!

It's strange how long it takes some people to finally come to their senses and protect themselves! But I finally woke up, thank God.

I'm keeping this new found strength for sure. It feels good. It feels right.

Poor WH......stuck with OW who barks! WOOF! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Kathy

Well, you are only trying to help him to take the path he has chosen. He should be thanking you! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Maybe as a parting gift, you could drop him a can of Alpo! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Jennifer

OW barking LOL! I thought maybe she kept him on a short leash...guess its the other way around! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Actually, I think their leashes are tangled! They're probably growling at each other, right about now! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

I have been following your thread and just wanted to stop by and say hi...glad to know you are okay...sounds as if your WH will just stay in the fog....probably wouldn't know a clear day if he saw one....it won't be long until your name will change to "Moved ON." Keep up your good work...you sound positive...glad you are enjoying your days...ss <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You all are a crack up!!!!

Tangled leashes......Alpo......WOOF!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Yes, ss, the fog will probably always be there. Funny how the WS can change things around in their mind to make themselves feel entitled and "righteous"!!!

Like WH's words "I'm glad I finally got rid of your a$$!"

Gee, I thought I was the one who kicked him out, and is getting the D.

BTW, my lawyer's office called today....they are writing up the draft of the D papers for allocation of property. They wondered why it appeared that I was giving WH the things he wanted free and clear, and I was taking all the debt.....

I said "I don't want to! That's why I wrote the letter with all the other papers I filled out." We talked for a while, and they are proposing that WH pay for a LOT!!! I agree, he should pay for something, for sure!!!

THESE WOMEN ARE TIGERS!!!!

After talking to the para-legal, I got to thinking.....there is no amount of money that WH could pay me for the STD that he gave me (thanks, OW). I will have it for the rest of my life (again, thanks, OW). The pain of everything else he put me thru now seems secondary.

But I still hold with this thought.....even if I end up with NOTHING, just me and my dog, I will be far ahead of the game.

My strength, self-esteem, and new found independence (also the joy I have regained in life) are things I would not have gained otherwise.

I have truly regained my spirit. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Dogs may bark, and leashes may tangle, but that pig just ain't ever gonna fly!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Kathy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

UnMoved...

I walked away from my marriage, with nothing but the children. There was nothing else he had, that I wanted. I had my self respect, and my girls, and that was all I needed. No amount of money or assets could buy these things.

I am very proud of you, and happy, that you are finding that peaceful place in your life, that you so deserve. I'm sorry about the STD, but like you said, you still have your spirit, and your will to carry on with your life, without the pain of having to wonder "what's next?" You might not be able to rid yourself of the STD, but you sure can remove the source! And for this, I am elated for your courage to do so!

So as those leashes tangle, and the dogs bark, and not enough alpo to go around, let your FREEDOM BEGIN!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

And just a second thought here, about dropping them that can of Alpo. Forget that! Keep it for your OWN dog, as I'm sure he's earned it even more than they have! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />**CLINK!**

Take Care...

Jennifer

Its pretty funny how WS can just spin everything so it fits their twisted little world.

I am also seeking D. I can see a peaceful/happy future. A year ago I never thought I would survive this.
Its ironic how we as BS's have grown and improved and WS's just become more and more pathetic wondering around in the fog.

***clink*** to growing!

**CLINK**...To growing! And to removing ourselves from THEIR eternal fog! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

UnMoved...How are you doing, this fine Friday night? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hey Jennifer and Confused....

I'm doing GREAT!!!!!!

Went yesterday and signed the papers at the lawyer's office. Again, I say it.....those women there are TIGERS!!!! Thank God!!!

Went on up to see DD who has been very sick, and got stuck there......freezing rain and snow. So, I spent the night with DD. Driving home today got stuck in traffic for 2 hours because of a horrible wreck with fatalities.

But, I'm still doing great. My lawyer is going to file the papers on Monday. They will let me know when WH gets served. I do believe I'm going to hide.

I'm so glad that you see a peaceful, happy future Confused. Wandering around in a WS's fog gets very disorienting at times. But my OH MY how the sun does shine when you finally remove yourself from the fog!!!

I knew without a shadow of a doubt the night I drove home from the ER (I went to be with DD) and went over everything WH (should I say STBXH?) said when he showed up there.

I kept thinking "And yet I am UNMOVED". I knew in that moment with crystal clarity that I no longer wanted to be with WH.

He can have OW, and good luck to them both. He has ruined his life as far as I can see. 33 years in ashes.

But the growth in myself is a wonderful outcome. I just wish I had stuck more closely to the MB principles early on, and not let WH manipulate me so much into letting him ride the fence.

Jennifer.....this really IS a fine Friday night!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Kathy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Yes, it is... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

How have things been going for you? Are you still "UnMoved"?