believer...and others who posted that had spouses in long term affairs that finally ended

i wanted to thank you for sharing your stories

i really needed this right now!!

I know you must be torn Believer....

and I totally respect you for all you did....

always carrying yourself w/dignity. always thinking thru things. you and I were on same timeline I think w/regards to our wh's affairs and the whole shacking up with ow thing.

it totally shocked me how he showed up at your door at six am.

and yea, harleys are soooo right that affairs end...why? it's like building a house with its foundation made of quicksand...will sooner or later suck you under.
soo many lies and deceptions. just too much for any relationship to survive. hardly healthy also.

thank you for being so kind and helpful to all here. and for being so steadfast in your change...you faced it head on...kept head held high...and moved thru life with utmost dignity...and moved on!

i am praying for you and the family tonight. praying that peace and God's wisdom tell you what to do.

i understand about how you feel dead...nothing...just nothing for wh. i feel numb too about mine.

you're wonderful btw.

Eav - Affairs end. You can count on that. We just have to figure out how to keep the BS in the game.

Neak - There is more to this whole thing, and it has to do with your book. I will talk to you on another thread.

LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

When you take your proof of making the mortgage to the atty (and the data about sqandering a shared retirement amount)- could she help get you the major share of the equity?

just curious.

far

B
I was reading this thread again and I was recalling your story. And all infidelity stories.

Affairs are such STUIPID things that NEVER lead to purity and goodness for the affairees.

You, however, are graciousness and faith personified. You are inspiration Believer. Know that.

Hi Believer,

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I second Bob..... and add....kind, generous, funny, loveable.... here..... just got the urge to give you a

(((((((((((((((BELIEVER))))))))))))))))))))))

Thanks for sharing..... I always look for your postings.... you are no more and no less a 'ray of sunshine' in my day...

Believer, You are always thinking of others. thank you. Just a side note, if you do decide to move away from your neighbor we could use someone like you in Alabama! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Thanks Julieco. Having the OW as a neighbor doesn't bother me a bit anymore. It did bother me and was extremely hurtful, when she was first dating my WH. She used to drive by, and flip her hair at me, all dressed up to go out with WH. But now that I have no feelings for him, I hardly even notice her.

Hey Believer,

You were one of the first to post to me when I crashed into this site a couple of years ago. You've been a selfless "shoulder" for so many here and continue to be so.

His affair is ended, as most all do, my wife's affair will end too someday.....that I am sure of, but my marriage will end first. It will be final in about two weeks.

We are survivors believer. I just wanted to say I remember your advice about fixing up the house....looking for the odd piece of furniture at a yard sale etc. It was simple practical advice to add a sense of "home" to my empty house. It helped. Bit by bit I've made this a home again and my children are here sound asleep right now.

By the way....I think I'll take the kids ice fishing tommorrow. I can drive right onto the ice with my truck this time of the year......probably about 30 inches thick...you're welcome to come. Bring a thermos of hot chocolate.

Hey Binder, 'member when she tried to make all us betrayed fellers get on a thread and jibber-jabber together?

GC

Yep, Binder, it's been a long haul. I'm glad that I gave it a try. But I'm thinking of telling new folks - welcome - the affair WILL end - where do you want to be when it does?

The fishing is good here. My sons and I go once a week. It is very relaxing. Ice fishing sounds like fun. We are going up to visit my family in Seattle this year, and try for a salmon - that is IF they have a salmon season this year. Last year they didn't.

believer, you have to stick around!!!

You give us newbies so much hope. Even if it is not for our M, it is for ourselves... that we can make it.

Your story gives me hope in more ways than one, thank you.

JJ - I was a complete mess when I got here. The folks here helped me through the quagmire when I couldn't help myself. I promise that it will happen for you too. It isn't easy, but you will get through it and be happy again.

Yep GC.......it was a nice thought, but we all soon realized that it started to feel like some Brokeback Mountain thread and thus the co-ed campfire was created. Now that was genius...especially licencing it for adult beverages.

Believer-

Just wanted to tell you that I admire you so much.

You earned your divorce, that's for sure.

I think it is befitting that he will now experience a small percentage of the pain he caused you.

I can't imagine what that realization must be like....to know that you've laid waste to your life and hurt everyone in it and you have exactly nothing to show for it.

By the way....I absolutely love this:

welcome - the affair WILL end - where do you want to be when it does?

That's perfect!!!

Thanks for sticking around with us!!

God Bless,

-Caren