Ok so, I had spoken only once to the OW from my H's EA. That was on the day that I caught them together after work. As many of you know, I felt very strongly that this was NOT ok, so I put on a King-Kong act, and scared the bejeezers out of her.
That was about the middle of october.
I recently aquired her mailing address (zabasearch) and finally sent the picture of her daughter that she gave to my H back to her. I also enclosed a short note advising OW that she's been wise to stay away from him, and that I expect that to continue -or else.
Then, yesterday...OMG...she drove past my house while I was outside, honked at me and motioned for me to meet her across the street at the school over there. I yelled "Arrrgh! You got a lot of F!$@^%ng nerve!" as I started over there. When I reached her truck, she got out, and I could see that she was terrified, shaking, etc. She then proceeded to apologize for causing any trouble for our marriage, and that she didn't mean to and all this and that. She went on to say that she isn't and has never been attracted to my H that way...Anyway, I have come to the realization that HE had a crush, HE did the chasing, and I busted him on his pursuit. Very humiliating for him, no doubt.
It was the wierdest day...My arms went from muscles pumping, thinking I might not be able to stop myself from from killing her, straight to engaging in a long and tender hug with her. We hugged and cried and then my H walked up, EYES AS BIG AS DINNER PLATES. We assured him that all was fine, sent him on his way, and continued our talk. So many questions have finally been answered for me, and I feel like a huge part of the weight on my chest has lifted.
Crazy, huh? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />
