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Re: Ladysheep -
Miss M #1601951 03/02/06 02:24 PM
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Please observe the request to stick to the topic and keep it respectful.

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Re: Ladysheep -
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Miss M,

Respectfully, and clearly stated before I made my sexist comment, it was NOT directed at you.

Why can't you just ignore it?

It seems to be the recommended solution.

NCWalker
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worthatry #1601953 03/02/06 02:31 PM
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Hey WAT,

I don't want you to think I ran away. Do you still want me to give you my opinion on your post to me? Not necessarily with regards to lady, but to the last part.

Blessings to you.

S&C

No man likes to have his intelligence or good faith questioned, especially if he has doubts about it himself. - Henry Brooks Adams
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steadfast and committed #1601954 03/02/06 02:49 PM
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"Dr. Harley is a Christian counselor so you can trust his counsel."

In the context of a general statement, this could easily imply exactly what WAT has already stated, i.e. non-Christian = untrustworthy, which is obviously false.

However the context of the post where ladysheep first made that statement was specifically directed towards authentic1.

So the "you" is not "us all", the "you" is one individual, who is Christian, and who would probably feel more trusting of a counsellor who is also a Christian.

So the sentence can be interpreted differently.

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Re: Ladysheep -
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Miss M -

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If we believe in MB, then we should take DJ's seriously, and not allow them here.

That is EXACTLY the point. And it should be done respectfully, which WAT did.

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So the sentence can be interpreted differently.

Can it? And even so, the point is moot. It WASN'T. The ONLY apology I have seen in here is WAT's. And he was almost told it was insincere.

Why is it so hard to see what happened? Is anybody READING this thread, or are you just skimming it...

This attitude of "I'm not wrong, I didn't hurt anyone" is a DISRESPECTFUL JUDGEMENT almost by definition.

WAT had a legitimate gripe here. And he didn't even gripe. He came forward expecting the best in that it was a misunderstanding. And all he got was airs of "how dare you suggest..." When he should have got "Ooops, I'll be more careful...."

Too bad I can't bold a rolleyes. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

The emperor has no clothes. There. I said it.
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nc....

I am NOT complaining about your statement above when I say it is NOT comparable at all to the statement made by Ladysheep! Whether you believe it or not is besides the point.

She did not say "All Christians counselor’s counsel can be trusted." She spoke of one counselor, SH.

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Dr. Harley is a Christian counselor so you can trust his counsel.

I read this as authentic1 (being a Christian) can trust his counsel ...TO BE CHRISTIAN.

I chose to read it that way, based on the discussion that was taking place there.

WAT chose to read it a different way.


SHE did reply to his post. She said she did not TRUST non-Godly counsel. She did clarify her statement.

Why the attacks? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />


Daisy<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

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Re: Ladysheep -
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ncwalker,

I agree that WAT was totally repectful. No arguement there!!! I think WAT is some kind of wonderful will all the help he gives here. My statement was not made with WAT in mind.

What I said was meant for the general population.

You also are very helpful ncwalker. Great joke, btw, my H made me write it down so he can tell it to a beer snob friend. LOL

Love in Christ,
Miss M

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H: FWS
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