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You are very, very like Bob Pure.


So are you saying all I need to do is go out and buy a pack of Diesel boxer shorts?

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I personally think you are doing just fine


I feel like I am doing about as fine as the Hindenburg, the Titanic, the McRib sandwich - disasters of epic proportions all. And then there is me.

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There is nothing to hate in you.

Oh I don't know. How about stubbornness, impatience, stupidity, wrongly placed priorities, to name a few?

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Yep, the Diesel boxer shorts should do it. And a rugby jersey.

I just don't see what you're doing wrong. You're not doing anything better or worse than any of us did.

I think the swimming instructor's gone for good. What was she thinking BTW? Yeah, like that was going to work in the long term.

He's way out of sight (lucky for you - some of them live down the road like the OM in my sitch) and he'll soon be out of mind.

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I am just going out to buy two dozen roses.

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Good. That is a very good idea and I don't usually like the flower idea but I think it is a very good idea in this case.

Ewww, LA, what does spit take mean?

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KiwiJ,

Why are you generally against the flower idea? Just curious. I had bought gemela roses last week. One of her comments this AM showed me that the roses had touched her last week. That is why I thought of doing it today - to maybe show her that I was listening to what she was saying. That was my intent. It was not to just give her flowers as a panacea. It was to try to show her that I got the message and that I want to continue.

LA,

Open my mouth...share...spit... Isn't that pretty much what I was doing to start this mess?

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I don't like flowers because they're a cliche. They never give me that "oomph" I need.

My H is particularly good at getting me things I would never think of but always love. My furry fox key ring, a book he knows I'll love, something arty. They give me the oomph.

But I have a feeling Gemela is a flowers woman and I think it's a lovely idea.

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Actually 2 dozen roses would probably do it for me as well. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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I don't mean to use this as an excuse and it a little bit of a sore subject but I am limited in my options. If I run out to the mall during lunch, I run a slight risk of ending up on CNN. I lost my head for gemela when I first met her. I would hate to do it again - if you know what I mean.

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Really????? I thought Saudi was safe.

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call a florist and get them delivered then.

2 dozen is such an abundance. It's so over the top.

SEND THEM.

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Really????? I thought Saudi was safe.


Riiiiggghhhhttt...


I got 2 dozen red with 1 dozen yellow. I know yellow means friendship but they are nice.

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They will be lovely.

I have to go. Dinner time here.

Keep us posted, T. And stay positive. Swallow another 20 ADs. That'll work.

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Oh, I see. I've just checked on the net.

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Oh, I see. I've just checked on the net.


And then there is the truth. Not the same thing. I can't say any more than that.

Flowers should be there by noon. She is almost always home with the DD's for lunch.

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They arrived.

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How are you doing Traicionado?

I know you have been pretty "down" lately, and i guess its all part of the roller coaster ride. Its hard to look at the "good" things when you are in that state, but try to see the positive things, if you just see the negative it will drag you down. You have been at this point before, i am sure, and you know this will pass again. No matter how small a positive sign is, keep bringing it back into your mind. This is how i try to keep my spirits up. Even if its just a smile, its positive and it keeps my negative thoughts away. We have come so far, and it has been a d**n rough road. But its all worth it, taking it step by step.

Look back and see how far you have come, how was it a few months ago? Things have improved, have they not? Try looking at the positive things, no matter how small. I hope it helps you.

P.S. what was her reaction to the flowers?

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Daggi,

Want to thank you for being such good support for Traic. It is hard to go through these times, yet over and over again I have seen how many a BS in great pain often are the quickest and the best at lending valuable support.

Keep up the good work. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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If you block yourself from yourself do you still exist?


Yes you still exist but you are not aware that you exist which is effectively non-existence.

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thank you for the flowers Orchid <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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