KiwiJ,

Use the thread all you want. I don't mind.

FWIW, I have played out this scenario in my mind many times. If OM contacted gemela, I would want her to tell me. I would believe she was being honest. I would believe it was not her fault and I would believe she was trying to involve me.

If she did not tell me and I found out on my own (and I am sure I eventually would), I would be done.

Just my opinion and only applies in my case. You know your husband better than anyone.

I think you need to tell your husband right away. Prayers to you.

T - I was watching a TV program about a Mexican drug dealer today. They raided his home. He had 3 late model cars (paid for in cash), 2 Beamers, and a SUV, and about 200 pairs of cowboy boots.

I thought about Gemela instantly.

t, how are you?

OMG, I am going to be distracted all day wondering which part of that reminded you of gemela <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

KiwiJ,

One of the things that hurt me most of the A was knowing that the little special secret place that only gemela and I shared was taken away and she now had that special secret place with OM. I felt like the outsider. If gemela were able to re-establish that secret place again and OM were now the outsider, by her telling me of contact, it would make me feel safe in our secret haven and, although it would bring back a lot of memories, I would still feel safe sharing that with gemela. I know it hasn't yet happened in my case but I swear I know this is the absolute truth.

T - It is odd, but the new cars didn't impress me. But when they filmed the inside of his closets with hundreds of new cowboy boots on the shelves, my eyes popped out.

I'm a person with 4 pairs of shoes - 2 pairs of heels for work, sandals, and tennis shoes. To me, tons of shoes is a sign of great wealth.

But getting back to the problem, I think that you need to throw a little novelty into your life with G. She is young and probably needs that.

I suggest you buy 4 horses and take up riding as a family.

Or maybe sky diving, SCUBA, or help her start her own business.

cc46,

I am okay. We took DD2 to the doctor yesterday to get her school vaccines. She ended up not getting them because they don't do the TB test on Tuesdays. Who knows why? We have to go back on Saturday. While we were there, we ran into a friend who had brought her daughter in for the flu. You know how you can sometimes look back on an event and break it down bit by bit and understand how everything came together for a totally unexpected outcome and yet it all makes sense? Well yesterday all the random cosmic tumblers clicked into place and the result is that, even though we accomplished absolutely nothing, it is going to cost me two Nintendo Game Boys. Makes no sense to me either. Don't bother. We are going out tonight after work to get two Game Boys and I hope they come in pink. Since we are going to the mall, I am certain that somehow shoes will be involved as well. Fortunately cowboy boots are not available here.

Tons of shoes is a sign of great poverty. At least in my case. Gemela went to a lunch this week and wore her new Bally shoes. They were the talk of the party. Why is it women focus so much on shoes? I have learned to look at what shoes women are wearing. Gives me one more thing to talk about with gemela. Last week our unit was in a meeting and I was standing next to our secretary. I looked at her shoes the whole time so I would not have to look at her. There are two reasons for that BTW. When the meeting was over, I complemented her on her shoes. She melted. Go figure.

Skydiving - too much risk of being shot down by an F16.

SCUBA - we have done this but are not too active.

Start own business - yes we have a plan already in the works.

Travel - that is what really gets her interest. Later this year after our repat, we plan to go to Cairo. Possibly skiing in Lebanon but not sure about that yet.

Is the business selling used shoes? Excuse me, "previously owned" shoes?

There is a small business in Mexico making "special clothes" for children. Really wonderful stuff. We would buy and resell. The owner is keen on the idea as well. Just more revenue. For a few thousands of dollars, she could give it a try and, if it fails, just means she will have to go lean on new shoes for a bit (not cold turkey - just toned down).

I think that sounds like a great idea. Gemela needs a challenge.

But I thought she had me? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

A positive challenge. (duck)

BTW believer, I really don't like the sound of your equine solution. Too apocalyptic for my taste when you really think about it.

Oh, I forgot to mention the really good news!!! Saudi Arabia got in a big shipment of Oreos. I bought in mayoreo.

Yes, enough challenge for 3 lifetimes. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for your input on my sitch, guys. I needn't have said anything but I wanted to. I know the right thing to do, of course I do, but I wanted to put it out here in black and white to hold myself accountable.

Nobody likes me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /> You are all a bunch of meanies! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

Does Traic's inner child want to come out to play?

LOL

LA

My inner child is going to his room and slamming the door! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

ROFLMAO...

LA

I seriously believe it is his AD's talking tonight. I mean it has been at least twenty days right? More like thirty?