I'm new to the MB and have received some good advice so far. My story---
On 02/01/06 I caught my huusband for the second time having an affair with "just a friend". At that time his solution was to leave. After leaving and coming back and each time tearing off the scab and reopening the wouuund I finally told him he had to leave for now. On 02/20/06 he found an apartment, that I went and looked at with him and I helped him move in. Long and short of the story, my H is still continuing a relationship with a woman 22 years his junior. Last Friday, I found out where the OW lived and caught him at her apt, and did manage to take pictures before hitting him. The entire month of February has been consumed with lies and deceptions, not only to me, but to his children from his first marriage. That marriage ended due to his infidelity also. I have cut off all communication with my H and he has not contacted me. I am attending Counseling and on medication. My H is also going to a Counselor, but I am concerned about the truth that is being told. He has had 2 sessions as of now, and each time he leaves his session, he tells me another lie. The commitment does not seem to be there. I do feel a little better not having to listen to the continous lying, but I do still love the jerk.
I guess I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions or advise on the handling of this marriage? I feel that I'm almost condoning his relationship since cutting off communication? I have told him on several occassions that he is still committing adultery, but apparently that doesn't effect him either.
Any help would be appreciated

I'm sorry to hear of your painful situation. Have you read up on plan A and plan B? You'll find lots of good concrete steps to follow. Stick around and keep reading and posting. You'll get lots of good support and advice here. Have you exposed his current A to as many people as possible? Is OW married?

Have you read any of the following?
When you first find out:

“Surviving An Affair” by Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr. & Dr. Jennifer Harley Chalmers

“When the One You Love Wants to Leave” by Donald R. Harvey

“Love Must Be Tough” by Dr. James Dobson

“Hope for the Separated” by Gary Chapman


They were all incredibly helpful books to me during the worst of the times...

MSA

Thank you for the advise-
Yes, he has pretty much told all of family, including his children, which are devastated since he did the same thing to their mother. I will read Plan A and B and hopefully come to some conclusions. Thanks you again for the help, I know I'm not alone in this crazy mess.
The OW had a boyfriend, who is the father of the 4 yo. They are apparently not together now, but "it has nothing to do with the relationship", probably another lie.
thanks again.

Thank you for the book recomendations, I will certainly get these to read. I have been reading just about any information I can get my hands on. I am currently reading "Surviving Infidelity", I don't have the authors' name right now, but it does discuss the types of affairs and the logistics, if there are any, behind them.
Thank youu again for the info.

Keep reading and posting. You are not alone. You can get through this.

Kim,
How are things going?

MSA