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#1604404 03/03/06 09:32 AM
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I left my first post here last week saying I was suspicious of my wifeand her friend and I took advice and installeda keylogger.Just found out within 10 mins she is involved with him.Already had conflict and she phoned her friend to delete her mailbox asap.I was stupid I should have waited but my emotions were so mixed up.Her mails certainly showed 100% EA but there are examples of PA.I dont know what to do. Her boyfriend rang me saying he ended the A last week though I had already threatened to tell his W.I love my wife and we have 2 kids aged 3 and 5.I want her to move out for a period and she refuses to do so.She categorically denies sleeping with him as does he( he is also married)but I think she is just saying this so as not to be labeled a physical cheater.I dont know what to do...I think I could handle the EA thing in time but I really need her to be honest about the PA.As you might realise Im screwed up at the moment... PS she has been lying to me about the EA for 6 months at least.. and Im sure she and her friend have both agreed to deny anything physical.. How can I get the truth? I feel as if everything has been destroyed and when I ask her why she did it she says I dont know..She says she loves me but likes him a lot. HELP

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Gooner,

Keep in mind the EA is a much stronger bond to break than if it was just a PA.

I would guess deep down you feel it was a PA also. You don't have the proof, and they are not going to admit to anything you can not prove. Think about it... A 6 month EA without a showing affection? Impossible No, but highly unlikely.

You may be able to get her to admit to everything, if she is infact willing to come clean and back to the marriage, but do not expect it.

Your WW is also trying to keep this covered because the OM is scared you will expose to his BS.

If she is not willing to come clean, and I would not expect her to slip up on the home computer again "but continue with the keplogger". You may need to look at some of the other spying options. Just remember your lesson learned here. Do not give away your source of info!

Most everyone here would tell you to EXPOSE to the OMW. I'm not sure at this point I would do that. Exposiong at this point might drive OM and your WW toward each other. Thats a trump card you may want to hang on to for awhile.

You need to sit you WW down and get her to tell the whole story, completely come clean. Including the PA. maybe bluff her into believing you have proof of the PA?

You have alot to do, and yes it sucks, it hurts, but you can do this!

I will move your tread over to the General Questions II board for more help, from the Guru's here.

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Gooner, Here's the link to your thread on the GQII board. Just let this one die.

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