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Well, I don't post here much, and never in this area I don't think, but I ran into this thread and thought it was interesting so I'll share mine too:

"Halcyon was a bird, now believed to have been the kingfisher. It was supposed to have a calming influence on the sea at the time of winter solstice. Folklore held that during the "halcyon days", from seven days before the solstice until seven days after it, storms would not occur at sea. By extension, halcyon has come to mean the best period of one's life or career, or a period of great happiness." (from poestories.com)

I ran into that word a while ago and thought if I ever get a boat I would name it that, and it also seemed a good name to use here.

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Ahhh okay so Trac, you are now officially eyeore...gotcha.

White_Daisy.....Yeah, I know I'm scary like that LOL!!!

God Bless,

-Caren


Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

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WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Hi Caren.....

I've gotten in this name-changing mode myself.

Formerly K72172......which is my first initial for Kathy, and the date of our M - July 21, 1972. (Man, that was a long time ago!!!)

Now I'm "UnMoved". Because finally, FINALLY, it does not matter what STBXH says to me, he can no longer manipulate me.

The last time I saw him (2 weeks ago) was at the ER, where I went to be with DD after she had a needle stick injury at work. WH was there (only to see me) and he tried in vain to talk me into giving him "one more chance". Guess seven chances weren't enough for him. (Stupid me!)

When I wouldn't budge, he started threatening me with financial ruin and hatred. I just shrugged and said "WHATEVER".

On the way home, I thought of everything he said to me, and I just kept thinking "And yet I am unmoved".

Jennifer68 suggested I change my name, so I did!!!!

UnMoved (K72172)


AKA UnMoved Me55 WH 53 Married 34 years Son 32; Daughter 30 A for 5 years or ? WHO KNOWS??? D-Day May 15, 2004 D finally final Friday, October 13, 2006
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On Dday, I remember thinking F* you, I'm going to have a tummytuck and find someone new! Tummy's a bit dodgy after twin pregnancy and c-section, but in all honesty, I hope someone could love me just as I am! TT

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These are great....and I think that it helps us get to know each other....our names say a lot about ourselves and our situations.

CarenMc, like I said, is my real 1st name and 1st 2 letters of my last name.....for me it's like "I'm not going to hide who I am....at the beginning it was like HERE I AM, I'M IN PAIN....if you recognize me because of the name....well I guess you'll just know what I'm going through.

God Bless,

-CarenMc


Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

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WH-37
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Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
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Well, my name actually has nothing to do with me being wise...I know a lot of people first think that when they see it.

My family is mixed Cherokee and Irish. And on various occasions, all of us have had an interest in the history of both sides. All of us from my family have a strong respect for both sides of our heritage. I actually received my 'name' from the (at the time) Chief of the Huron nation...long story, but my oldest brother and I got to know him well.

My oldest brother was badly burnt one time when I was an older teen...to the point where he had 2nd and 3rd degree burns over 40%-50% of his upper body. He died twice on the way to the ER, but was revived both times. I was the 'first on scene', got the flames out and started first aid at the time. That, coupled with some even crazier things, ended up in both of us being named with 'owl' as part of it. Most native American nations don't use owl in a name...since it's the only bird of prey that flies at night, it often has a connotation of death. Only if your 'medicine' is strong enough to "overcome death"...as what happened with my brother...will a name like that be considered.

Again...I'm not wise. Had I been wise, I would have been able to avoid a lot of the heartache and pain that I've been through. Never meant to mislead anyone here with my name into giving the impression I thought I was wise...just that this name has been part of me for so long now that it only makes sense to use it.

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Mine's kinda simple..I'm a girl (gal) & from Texas,
& there is another registered with TxGal so added the
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Me BS - 58 WH - 58 DDay-12/18/04 WH Left - 1/18/05 HS Sweethearts Married 40yrs,7/2/'66 2 Kids-F-39,M-27 4 GKids-2F-20,1;2M-8,10 2 GGKids-1M-2, 1F-10mos
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LOL i really hate my MB name...i am terrible about coming up with new ones. When i signed it i was crying hysterical with WH by my side so in a way it was to hurt him...

Tiger was the pet name the OW gave him..he called her Kit Kat (gag)

so i felt like i "lost" my H who was then named Tiger.

UGGGGHHH!

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Well, mine is just a nickname that my FWS had given to me years ago. He has given our kids lots of nicknames, and one for our DS is LiamFish...So I am MamaFish...this is what I use for all my user IDs, so it was just out of habit that I used it here...

The funny thing is that he never calls me that anymore!


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Mine is simply something that I am prone to doing. Sometimes when I'm upset. Sometimes as a family walk. It was what I was doing with I finally "got it".

My epiphony story:

I believe epiphany's happen. One happened to me. That is one of the reasons I am on the boards. It happened after a particularaly nasty arguement between my W & I (I'll spare you the details). As is my want, I went out of the house and "walked the fields". Only this time, instead of focusing on how angry I was with my W, I started to think about why / how the arguement started. I then started to think back about other arguements we'd had over the years. In those few hours that I was "walking" I started to see patterns in MY behavior that shocked me. I realized that if I kept up these patterns I could really endanger my marriage. By the end of this "walk" I vowed that I would NOT repeat these patterns and I would make changes for the better. I WOULD become a better husband to my wife.

That was a few years ago. IMHO our marrige has never been better than it is now.


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Well, my MB name was chosen because it's what I most wanted to be at that time. I was saying -- by faith -- that I was at peace. I needed peace in my heart and my life.

Now, I really am at peace. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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All in favor of losttiger changing her name so every time she comes here she doesn't have to think of the OW cooing love names over her H raise your right hands.

All opposed? The yeas have it.

Now we need to have a New Name Party for her. I'm awful at thinking up names, but I'll think about it, too.


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



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My MB name is pretty obvious. WH left before DD could crawl. I also think that maybe if I hadn't been in the "new mom" fog, I would have been more perceptive to signs of the affair.


(Formerly SadMommy05) BS, 29 (me) XH, 27 DD, 1 M, 2001 high school sweethearts OW, 36, divorcee, "we have a friendship people can't understand" WH left out of the blue 9/5/2005 I filed 11/1/2005 D finalized 6/20/06 XH and OW married 1/6/07. Ugh!
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My name was inspired by a book called "The Power of Intention" by Wayne Dyer.

Choice is what occurs in the gap between stimulus and response. My W told me something that was devastating (stimulus). I am choosing to respond with forgiveness (response). Easier said than done - but that is my INTENTION.

Intention guides my choices. I intend to have a wonderful marriage - so I choose to envision myself surrounded by the conditions I intend to produce.


BS 40 (me)
FWW 39
D13, D10, S5
Married 12/95; PA ~3/96; EA ~1/10
D-day 2/16/06 (ten year secret)
Current status: Newly discovered EA
My story (part 1)
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I think Losttiger needs a new name too, she has earned one for sure.
I stink at names, look at mine...LOL...
I am not empty anymore, I am quite full of myself lately...LOL
Lets have a name party like was suggested:
I will bring the pizza
JE


D-day 5-18-05
35 BS (me)
52 WH
17 DS
15 DD
14 DDs twins
Currently in R.
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference" The Serenity Prayer
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There was another thread just like this awhile back. This one is just as interesting. WhoMe is just how I felt when I found out on D-day. I would have never in a million years have thought that my H would do such a horrible thing with such a fat, hideous nutcase. I could have just as well called my self dumba**, clueless, or dreamer and it would have fit just as well.

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I am the BW,
He is the FWH
D-Day: 12/02/03

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I was Niosgirl....but I got uber righteously ticked off at Wookie and changed to Dealan-de, which is Gaelic for "God's fire" and also "butterfly." I've a butterfly tattooed on my lower back (and later my Dealan-de above it) - got the tat to remind myself that I'm constantly in the process of becoming better....added Dealan-de because I'm a tool that God used to light a fire under my Wookie's a$$.

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I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

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I am as big an ARK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />









not really...... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

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Gooner... what the Arsenal football team boys are called in London

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