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C-mon.....need some more names <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

There's a frew more I'm wondering about, i.e. Pepperband...but there are a lot more.

God Bless,

-Caren


Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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...some of us have a very obvious name.....

Like me.... Orchid (my fav flower). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

AKA: Black Orchid - what I'm like when I plan B someone! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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Tee hee hee Orchid <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

God Bless,

-Caren


Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Mine is kind of self-expanatory too. It is from my sig line which is a favorite quote from a favorite poet.

But I do hope that everything is pretty much fixed in my life now, so I can quit weaving the dang parachute. lol

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Sorry Caren, mine is boring. I was named after both of my grandmothers - Elizabeth and Dora. One of the best doctors I ever worked with was a neurosurgeon, and he called me Lizzie. He is the only one who ever got away with it. I go by Elizabeth.

My mom's mother was named Queenie Elizabeth...but luckily, I have a female cousin who was born a few months before me. She got stuck with the name Queenie!!!!


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BS - 48 (me)
FWH - 40
DD 12-28-05.
After Plan A, Plan B, and a false recovery, H moved home 9-29-06. Phone contact continued until 8-07. Real recovery started after that.
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Hi, Caren. I got mine from a verse in the Bible, too. Mine is Isaiah 61:3, a familiar verse to many:

"...to provide for those who grieve in Zion- to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of His splendor."

In the wake of infidelity, I often feel like nothing. So nice to know that God can make me an oak of righteousness!

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I was drivng home from LA late one night. I was in SO MUCH PAIN. It was about 4 or 5 months post D-day. I had been studying and learning about plan A. The part of plan A where one works on one's self. I had learned so much, and made so many personal changes.

A song came on the radio that captured my thoughts. It was a sincere snapshot of where I was. By Hoobastank. Called The Reason:

I'm not a perfect person
There's many things I wish I didn't do
But I continue learning
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know

I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you

I'm sorry that I hurt you
It's something I must live with everyday
And all the pain I put you through
I wish that I could take it all away
And be the one who catches all your tears
Thats why i need you to hear

I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is You [x4]

I'm not a perfect person
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know

I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you

I've found a reason to show
A side of me you didn't know
A reason for all that I do
And the reason is you


Although I am the BS - I also accept my part in the deterioration of the marriage.

I am now a new man. But the reason has changed. Although I think that the M can be redeemed, and I think it is best for the kids, now my reason IS my children. Whether or not the relationship with stbx gets better or worse, THE REASON is my beautiful three children.

My name is Chris.

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I have found a NEW REASON!!!!
A Treasure!!
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mine is simply what I must do. Everytime I see it I gain a little bit of courage to keep working on my M. The real sad part is that I do not think that will be enough.

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GotTo-

That is a perfect name for you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

God Bless,

-Caren


Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

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7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
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What a great thread!!!

And Got2KeepTrying is a great name...beats the fluffing out of anon_numbers

LOL

Traic already changed his name and has to repost, right?

Where's Pepperband?

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Good question....and yeah, I'm nosey and wanted to see what everyone's name meant.

God Bless,

-Caren


Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

BS-Me 39
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Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Good thread idea!

My WH was the first to post here under the name Lost71

I lurked and then posted as NotTooLost because I had filed for divorce at the time and didn't feel like being Mrs. Lost. Also, the line from Amazing Grace, I was lost and now I'm found made me like the name NotTooLost (NTL)

After we had reason to believe that the OW in our sitch had gotten ahold of our MB account info, which I now don't think happened fortunately, I needed to change my name so that she couldn't easily look up all our old threads. Since STOW is the MB abbreviation for Stereotypical Other Woman, which OW definitely is/was, and I wanted her to stay AWAY, Mrs. STOWaway was born.

I think my H's screen name might still be Mr. NTL although he almost never posts.

For the reason that I am not a STOW and don't want to be misconstrued as such, I sign my posts MSA.

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OC 8-05 - no contact
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Well my is pretty easy to guess....
When I found out, I sat and tried to think and kept coming up empty. So my name says what I feel.
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35 BS (me)
52 WH
17 DS
15 DD
14 DDs twins
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"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference" The Serenity Prayer
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Hi caren......

Right after H left, I also lost my favorite cat: Daisy. I really loved that cat, she had such a personality, so anyway, I went out and bought some white-daisies and I planted them in the garden. I was in a lot of pain, seemed like I was loosing everything.....At that time I started posting here again......

Daisy


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Did anyone here ever hear of a band called RUSTED ROOT? They're a Grateful Dead, Dave Matthews Band ,Phish type of "jam band". Only radio "hit" they ever had was also played in the movie "Ice Age". It's an awesome upbeat type of song called "Send me on my way".

It did not hurt that my youngest son was born while Mom was listening to that CD.

And when I signed on here I needed to be upbeat..


Me BS - 44
FWW- 42
EA for 4 years with fellow employee
became PA in Jan 04 - I knew of this one.
Seperated/ Divorced July 03
2 sons 14 & 12
D Day -6/26/04- PA in 1998 for about 1 year- I had NO idea.
recovery and reconciliation began 6/27/04

Remarried 2/18/06

My story?? Click below.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Main=129980&Number=1575914
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Pepperband means I am the queen of everything and Gimble is my filet minon.

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~Pepperband


A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb



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LOL........is Pep on one of her delusions of grandeur stints again LMAO!!!

You know we love you Pep <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

God Bless,

-Caren


Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

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WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
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BTW, I can identify with a *Down in the dumps* name, althought I never named myself something like that....I did have an MB e-mail for a while that was "ThePiecesOfMyBrokenHeart@yahoo.com" Then I thought, could I feel anymore sorry for myself?? LOL

So I went with a name I use in Yahoo Pool.....which is D0_I_Fry10_U (Do I frighten you), which, by the way, I should <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

God Bless,

-Caren


Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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I wasn't going to post but then thought maybe it would be a good idea. Yesterday I changed my name from "traicionado" to "Eyeore" (after a spelling correction thanks to LovingAnyway). Everyone was coming up with creative abbreviations for my screen name. Now before Orchid starts to feel bad or anything, what got me to make up mind to change it was when ToddAC referred to me as "tracheotomy". That was just over-the-top somehow.

Now Eyeore is known for always saying "don't bother about me - nobody ever does". He is a sad sort. The reason I wanted to post this is so that nobody gets the wrong idea. I am not saying "don't bother about me" because I am depressed and have given up. I am saying "don't bother about me" because I think I am finally beginning to be okay (whatever THAT means). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

PS: I also think "gemela" may be on to me. Only joking. I have told her repeatedly she is free to read my posts any time she wishes. Gee, I hope I didn't say anything bad about her.... Oh, gosh! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />


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Caren.....yes YOU DO FRIGHTEN ME! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />


Me: 30 WH: 29 WH: left May 8th, 2005 Now: no contact with WH since 07/02/2006 Ark on Plan A plan a tips and musings...get grounded here betrayed spouses...............JUST BE STILL...........
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